My bf was seeing another woman for a while 9 months ago. I forgave him, but something reminded me yesterday, i was a little sad. not actually about her, but about the fact that he was really pushing me away for about 3 months. i wanted to sleep on it, and i would have been ok in the morning. I told him what was up last night, and then he wont let it go today, he is pushing and pushing me. i say i'll be ok, he's like 'obviously your not ok' and 'i'm sorry i care about you more than you care about yourself' he's just making it so intense. so NOW i'm upset about everything that happened before, cos it's churned up all these emotions, that i just wanted to let go. How can i make him realize that talking this through isn't going to help, because it wont change it. i just need to get over it.
2006-11-21 19:16:58 · 14 answers · asked by maria h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This will happen forever as long as your with him....
2006-11-21 19:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey first of all since he is pushing it just say well if you didnt cheat this wouldnt be an issue would it have. Second you arent over it and from experience you might forgive but part of you will never forget the pain and agony he put you through. Third, tell him you dont want to talk about it and that talking about it only brings up the feelings in you that you felt then and you really dont wnat to deal with those feelings.
2006-11-21 19:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll never get over it, you will always think of it, the mind controls the body. Once you loose trust in relationship there's no getting it back, everything after that is nothing but misery,wondering could it happen again, nine times out of ten it will. You can stay in it for what ever reason you think you should but you yourself will be miserable.You might even forgive him but you will never forget it, Sometimes its best to step on your own heart and break it. In other words move on, live,love yourself more.you say you are over it but you are not and something is gonna always remind you of it, just looking at him wondering why? will he do it again ? why did he do this to me? All that misery.
2006-11-21 19:48:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first there is no way of completely getting over this, what he has done can completely destroy trust, and trust is a key element in a relationship. Explain to him that you really need your space and time to think about what happened, tell him that if he respects you he will give you this time to think. Perhaps taking a couple days off to yourself would help you release some of these emotions without the worry of having him there to force you to try and share these feelings.
2006-11-21 19:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by HopeDasher 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok, the subject with this subject is that what comes after that? What does it relatively do on your relationship? Do you have any prefer to have a three-way, as that's in all probability what would be next? How approximately seeing your bf with yet another guy? (what's stable for the goose is stable for the gander!) Do you definitely need to positioned on a instruct for him with yet another gal? you have issues now, so why enable yet another skill difficulty in the door? stable success. Regards, Dan
2016-10-22 13:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Might I suggest that this may be something that you can't get over? Of course he wants you to work through this with him because then he can get rid of some of the guilt he feels.
And, be careful. It's always easier to cheat that second time. Only the first time is hard.
2006-11-21 19:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anon Tom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if this man has a pattern of doing this you need to know. IF you dont think about this you may find your self in the cold some day soon.
2006-11-21 19:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
think well before u take aby decision. if he is hurting u more than giving u happiness then better leave him. with time, u'll get ova him.
2006-11-21 19:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talking about it might help. Maybe look into talking to a professional, they can really help.
2006-11-21 19:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by Deanna D 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I think you should talk all of this out and then forget it
2006-11-21 19:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋