2006-11-21 18:39:07 · 17 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its the boyfriend calling the x girfriend, and he thinks this is just ok
2006-11-21 18:47:08 · update #1
No, it is not alright. You are being unfair to your new partner and also messing with your x's head! He wants his bread buttered on both sides! That's not fair.
How would this person feel if your x was phoning you, and telling you he still loved you!!?? Come on girlfriend! The past is in the past, and he must either break it off with you, until he can sort himself out, or stop two timing on you and your feelings! Tell him it is not acceptable, and he must now make a choice. If he can't - then he doesn't care for you anyway, and you are better off without him.
2006-11-21 18:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can I make the assumption that the girl you're talking about here who's being hounded by her ex is you?
I can understand the element of giddiness in this whole situation especially if your ex is someone whom you really loved. There's probably a tinge of feeling proud because you've proven that after two years, he still has feelings for you.
HOWEVER, you're currently involved now, and that is something that your ex needs to accept.
He needs to move on with his life, while you need to forget and banish every profession of love he is saying now to you in order not to be confused by the situation.
2006-11-21 20:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by Alias G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhm... NO! If you still have feelings for your ex why are you going out withthe the guy? Your current BF might actually like you, but if you give in to your ex you'll hurt your BF. You and your ex ave issues that need to be worked out, and simply calling him on the phone will increase temptation. If you want to be with your BF stop allling your ex, and think of the future with your BF without comparing him to your ex. If you love your ex you may have to work out the issues between you two (which means you'll have to break up with your BF :-( ), or think about why you broke up and figure out if you want that again. If you are not sure get away from of them to give youself time to think. Fallow your heart, but don't forget to listen t your mind.
2006-11-21 19:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to know how to get your ex back? Change yourself. Don't worry about changing other people, worry about changing yourself. Go to https://tr.im/AKiLB
Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.
The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.
Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.
2016-04-25 23:40:14 · answer #4 · answered by doloris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, because they might be in another relationship and you'll end up looking psycho. unless you kept contact with them to begin with during those two years. i know, cause my ex called me 1 year later and i'm like, okay what the hell does he want. after a weird momment of silence i started talking , and i knew why i broke up with him, so it was weird, but at least we had a few laughs remembering hte past. but if you feel there was really a strong conection give him a call, you have nothing to lose and so much to gain. good luck.
2006-11-21 18:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by black_metal_mist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst she's back from analyzing in a foreign country and additionally you recognize regardless of if this different dating is extreme or no longer, you could desire to wanna attempt telling her the style you experience. She could desire to experience the comparable approximately you, she could desire to no longer, yet you're of course feeling undesirable, so what do you ought to lose? tell her you nonetheless have romantic thoughts for her, which you will desire to even nonetheless love her, which you have been mendacity once you mentioned you probably did no longer love her, yet be sparkling which you in basic terms prefer her to be happy and to no longer experience such as you're pressuring her into leaving the different guy. tell her which you will nicely be happy with being purely buddies if she would not experience the comparable. sooner or later once you the two have your person relationships and lives (or purely one in all you does), do you surely need to consistently ask your self what could have been? it rather is extra useful to be rejected now than to consistently ask your self what might've occurred. And who is familiar with? She could desire to experience the comparable way, and additionally you 2 could desire to be soulmates and get married. or you 2 could desire to party and it will lead to heartbreak. yet nonetheless, love is nicely well worth the hazard! in case you could no longer take a hazard, you could desire to miss out on something spectacular.
2016-10-17 09:14:52 · answer #6 · answered by gaffke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...... be realistic girl!...... Concentrate on your current boyfriend, and leave your ex in the past..... If your'e going to jump in 2 different direction's at once, then all your'e going to do, is muddy the water's, and complicate thing's for everyone....If you dont want to be with your current guy, then leave him, so he can get someone else who does.... Dont even phone your ex, because he's your past not your future.... It's very bad form, to be jumping this way and that way, and here and there, and all over the place. Make up your mind, what you want to do, and do it, so your current guy can go if you dont want him....... Gee wizz!..... Unbelievableee!....
2006-11-21 19:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is not ok especially after 2yrs becoz if he feels the same way he would have called you so to clarify it for you he has moved on so do not go on thinking about him cause you are heading for an embarassment.try to forget abt him & move on .it really hurts if u are in a relationship & an ex just comes up so you 'll spoil it for him.MOVE ON
2006-11-21 18:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by ruvarashe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on the situation. i still love and care for everyone ive ever dated. love isnt someting you can turn off. now, if you just call out of the blue just to say you love them, then thats a little wrong... if youve moved on then you doint need to send mixed signals like that. i still talk to some of my ex's and we might say love ya at the end of our conversations, but thats not the reason i call. i call to see how things are going and the "love ya" part comes at the end, and i talk to them in front of my current boyfriend so he knows theres nothing going on. its okay to still care about him, but you shouldnt call JUST to tell him that you love him...
2006-11-21 18:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of love you are expressing.
Are you expressing a fondness of the memories, and the friendship you have with them now...
Or are you expressing a regret for not being with them, and a love that you haven't forgotten?
2006-11-21 18:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by A Wells 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋