She's putting herself in danger...?

Question

Christy, my friend can't keep a boyfriend for more than a week. Her shortest relationship was 30 minutes...She runs out of bfs in the school, so she turns to internet...This scares me. I'm all for internet...but the safe way. She posts her address, full name, age, etc....My last bithday party she came to, she invited a guy about two years older than any of us who she didn't know and had never met in person. She had to give him MY address. Not my cup of tea...I was very upset at her, but I was more conserned and I still am. I believe that internet dating(long terms,blinds,etc.) make her think that she is seemingly worthless and has no value. This might hurt her permanently. I've confronted her but she says its all safe, but her IM list is miles long...What is happening to my friend and how can I help her before she winds up murdered by a sex predator on the prowl???Please help me I would deeply appreciate it...

Answer 1

Your friend has some real issues here, and you are right on target about the dangers to be found on here.

However I'm afraid that short of destroying her computer, cutting the Internet line, and locking her up in the house, there really isn't to much you CAN do to stop her.

You might try getting her attention by ;

Getting pamphlets on the dangers of Internet relationships.

Newspaper stories on persons injured/children molested by on line predators

talking to her and insisting that she NOT give out YOUR personal information

Maybe even threaten to stop being her friend

I hope you can get her attention soon about how much danger she really is in. Just remember that all you can do is point them out. You can't stop her, if she doesn't want to stop.

I wish you good luck.

Answer 2

The Internet---How to Avoid the Dangers
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208a/article_01.htm

If she already knows this, you can't make her stop.
But you can do the truly responsible & loving thing & tell her parents, or guardians, & counselors at school. Ask yourself how you'll feel if you do nothing, when something does happen ...

Chat Rooms---What Should I Know About Them?
http://watchtower.org/e/20050922/article_01.htm

Can Internet Dating Really Be Dangerous?
http://watchtower.org/e/20050522a/article_01.htm

Does it seem to you too that she doesn't seem to value life? Does she seem to just not really care about anything? except immediate fun? Has anything happened in her life or to someone she loves that may have triggered this?

What Is Your Life Worth? :
- Life--Precious or Cheap?
- How Precious Is YOUR Life?
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/2/1/article_01.htm

What Hope for Today's Youths? :
- The Tragedy of Youthful Deaths
- Suicide--A Scourge of Young People
- When Hope and Love Vanish, then Return
- Motivations for Suicide
- Some Indicators of Suicide
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/9/8/article_01.htm

How Can I Cope When Tragedy Strikes?
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2003/6/22/article_01.htm

What about her home life?

The Problems of Children ... :
- An Ongoing Search for Solutions
- Children Deserve to be Wanted and Loved
- The Solution at Last! - Help for Young People
- The UN Declaration of the Rights of the Child
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2000/12/8/article_01.htm

Answer 3

You are gonna have to act fast here! Talk to your friend again and tell her if she doesn't stop, you will have no alternative but to go to her parents. Tell her it is because you care for her, and not because you want to be mean. Also, tell her she has now put YOU in danger to, by giving your address to total strangers. This is a awful situation to be in, but you will have to take the bull by the horns and put brakes on your friends activities NOW. If her parents are no help, then approach a teacher that you trust, or the parent of another friend. Good luck Hon. and stick to your guns, she will thank you for it later.

Answer 4

I watch the Tyra Banks show religiously. She had an episode about giving out too much information, and it really opened my eyes up. I immediately changed practically everything on my MySpace account because what she said and what other girls and their parents said was so true. Anyway. There are thousands of cases reported about murders, kidnappings, rapes, stalkings...all because young girls are too trusting. SHOW THESE TO HER!! Make her see the truth. Continue expressing your concern to her. If it doesn't help, talk to her parents. She'll get pissed, but you need to intervene. She's very lucky to have a friend like you that cares.

Answer 5

Tell her parents. She'll be upset, but isn't that worth it in the long run if it saves her from a horrible situation. If that is to hard ask your parents to tell them or a school counselor might do it and keep your name out of it. If you can't find anyone, write tham a letter that gives enough information that they believe it even if she denies it. You are right to be concerned.

Answer 6

She is old and maybe needs more attention. Maybe everyone can watch out for her. Trying to change this behavior as at this age is not going to work. One day you are going to turn around and she will be gone. Why not take her to the vet and get her checked out and see what is going on with her. She has lived a very long time in cat years so be kind to her and be careful around her. Maybe her eye sight is not as good as it once was. R P CAT

Answer 7

Never mind the danger she is putting herself into, you need to worry about the danger she is putting you into. Assuming you are both adults (meaning that she can do what she wants), you nevertheless need to protect yourself against the consequences of her idiotic behaviour. Talk to her one more time, try to make her see reason, and if she won't, cut off all contact with her. Giving out your name and address without your permission to a perfect stranger would mean the end of the friendship to me.

Answer 8

there isnt much you can do she will do what she wants you should talk to her parents or someone that she thinks alot of. get them to talk to her. i can tell you that honestly you are right something is going to happen to her if somebody doesnt do something. and you need to do it soon. all i can say is keep talking to her

Answer 9

Collect all the articles you can about internet preditors.
Tell her to NOT involve you with her dates.
Maybe you need to talk to her mom?

Answer 10

tell her that, and remember, safety is most important. she might get raped and murdered eventually.

yes, and tell her to not give out ur address, that is so rude!!! u need to tell her parents.