I've known him for about 2 years..him and I started to be really good friends this year when we went to the same school. HIm and I got along pretty well but i didn't know if he liked me like that for sure..so one day I went to his house and me and him just kinda hung out...but the next day i went over there we ended up having sex...in the shower..so I didn't know what that meant cause we weren't going out and he didnt kiss me one bit..so I was feeling used. Then he told me he was moving to England like in 2 weeks so I felt like he just did that with me cause he thought that I was the only girl who would **** him before he left..I guess I was wrong about him liking me...So was I used or am I overexagerating...cause thats what he thinks...
2006-11-21 18:25:34 · 8 answers · asked by MinaJay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry for you , you shouldn't do sex with anyone before you marry the one who will take you forever.
2006-11-23 12:54:12 · answer #1 · answered by The Wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chalk this one up to live and learn, honey....
And, take some responsibility for what happened. After all, you don;t just "end up" naked in a shower with someone.
People have differing ideas about what's sexually appropriate. For many, a spontaneous screw in the shower is a nice treat. While he probably did use you to some extent, and was a rat to not at least kiss you, you now have this experience under your belt (no pun intended) and will know better next time.
Best wishes.
2006-11-21 18:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am gonna tell you what I tell other girls... DON'T HAVE SEX WITHOUT A COMITTMENT AND THEN EXPECT TO BE SOMETHING MORE THAN A BOOTYCALL OR A FLING.... you really can't blame him you put yourself in that situation why would you even sleep with him and you yourself was not sure if he liked you... I don't mean to be mean or sound harsh but you can't do this to yourself you need to realize that you are precious and worthy of love... and not some romp in a shower with some dude you are unsure of anyway
2006-11-21 18:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by micheleh29 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry to say this..but sounds used to me. He is just some lost horny boy.
don't let this effect your self esteem. Sex is HUGE for males and they will do almost anything to get it.
it does NOT mean you are not attractive
it does NOT mean he didn't really like you
it DOES mean that he is a typical male
Know that you have a ton of valuable qualities
Know that you have more self-worth than this silly moment
Know that you will rise above this and move on
as for him?
I hope he ends up sobbing ...with his lonley d*** in his hands
as most of them do.
Amen sista.
good luck to you.
2006-11-21 18:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course he is telling you that you are exaggerating. What do you expect - for him to tell you the truth? Yeah, you were used alright. But before you rip his head off, consider this. It takes two - one to be a user, and the other to allow it to happen. Why do you have such low self-esteem as to allow someone you're not even dating to get into your pants? You need to work on your standards, girl.
2006-11-21 18:29:05 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the way you started is not cool.It really take a lot to end up in bed with a guy even that isnt cool.You just thought you liked each other it was in your mind maybe he saw it & he took advantage of that .next time take it slow baby.
2006-11-21 18:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by ruvarashe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you knew he was leaving, then i say you allowed him to use you. but if that's not the case, you might be overexagerating
2006-11-21 18:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you arent overexagerating. he plasyed you and yes he used you and that is fact. my opion?
2006-11-21 18:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋