Well I know that all of you are thinking I should have protected myself better, and that Im a retard for sleeping with this guy. Tell me something Im not already telling my self 3000 times a day. I knew this guy in Highschool, my borther and him were friends, he had a good reputation. He sought me out on the internet through a friends myspace account, I met up with him and we started dating. I found out he was married, he fessed up to that, but said that he was legally seperated, and that his wife was living with another man. He told me he had cancer as a child so he was now infertile. Now Im pregnant, and I found out through his mother that he had lied about everything. I have two children already and I dont belive in abortion. I dont want him to be a part of mine or my childs life, he is the slime of the earth. What can I do?
2006-11-21 18:18:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, you should contact a lawyer - there are usually ways to get free advice. I don't know if you are/aren't going to go after him for support - that might make a difference.
I know in California he has rights to visitations, but I don't know how he'd go about getting them - especially, if like some others have said, you don't name him on the birth certificate.
And, as someone else mentioned - got get yourself checked for STD's NOW - you need to know since there are things you might pass to your child during the birth process.
Best of luck to you & your child.
2006-11-21 18:29:02 · answer #1 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can. She is your mom and until you turn 18 you are under your moms care. Although I did have to laugh my head off when I saw you had written man - at 17 your boyfriend is not a man, plus men don't sleep with young girls who have just become teenagers. Sorry not trying to offend but that gave me a good laugh. Anyway....on probation and you are only 13? Well it really depends what you are on probation for. But what I would say is regardless to the pregnancy being on probation at only 13 is pretty bad and you really should try and turn your life around for the better especially if you go ahead with this pregnancy. And no he doesn't have any right to see you if your parents don't allow it, although if your mom lets you have sex then I really can't see why she wouldn't let your boyfriend see you or why you are even asking this question. As a parent she has failed in her duty, because she should have heard the warning bells ringing when you first announced you were going out with a 17 year old when you are barely a teenager. My parents would never have allowed this at that - may sound unfair to or even too me at that age but at the end of the day its a parents responsibility to guide you in the right direction. And your mom has failed you there I'm sorry to have to say. And no you don't become an adult just because you are pregnant. You are still legally a child who should be out enjoying life with your friends not bring a baby into the world. The baby doesn't change the fact that you are a child.
2016-05-22 12:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Props to you for choosing to accept the responsibility of caring for the child even though you obviously don't care for his father. From what you've said of him, he probably won't want anything to do with this child. If he does, you can place a restraining order on him. He has no rights to be any part of the child's life, especially if he's not going to be providing child support. Do a yahoo or google search on your state's child protection laws for specifics. Good luck & God bless!
2006-11-21 18:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by JAM86_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a tough situation, I'm sure. I know that you probably want to protect your children and you feel that it's best if he be out of the child's life. If that's what you feel is best, then do it. As long as you are doing this for the child's best interest and not out of anger and hurt for what he did to you. No matter what you decide, make sure you always allow your child to meet his or her father if they want to. You have to remember that one day he or she will be an adult and will want answers. It's the childs right to know who his or her father is, even if they aren't worthy. Best of luck.
2006-11-21 18:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right NOW..the focus should be on that baby , you and your family, NOT that JERK!!! If you really think you couldn't handle having another child, give the baby up for adoption.There is plently of couples and single women who want a baby in their life. (I want a baby also). I know what your probably thinking that if you keep the child..then she/he will believe that he/she wasnt wanted and so on. I believe you will make up your mind what's best for you and your family(including the unborn child),
Many Prayers to you and your loved ones.
2006-11-21 18:27:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE RIGHTS!!! you have more rights than HE does right now...actually....
Believe in yourself.
RISE ABOVE
claim the money that is due to your child. you can do it legally.
get a lawyer..or get a "state-appointed" one.
you have more rights now than ever. thank god women are protected now, had it been 20 years ago- you were/are screwed.
You must believe that you can do it
you must believe that you are still a worthy and perfect being
you must know that we all suffer and no one is perfect
go forward
love your child
get the money that is due to you
move on
life and love and relationships are complicated. you have the ability within you to rise above and to fly like a butterfly.
you do.
you really do.
2006-11-21 18:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has to pay child support. but he may demands parental rights,which he is entitled to. the courts can garnish his wages for support.Now, when are you going to get yourself tested for any STD this jerk may have given you? and try not to fall for the same trap. You've learned a hard lesson already..
2006-11-21 18:24:54 · answer #7 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Thats crazy.Why would someone lie like that...I dunno...anyways from the sounds of it he probably is one of those guys who wouldn't even want to be part of the childs life...but if he does you can not legally stop him...I know it would be hard for you...but its the facts!
2006-11-21 18:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like the mister wonderful I dated- stay away from him as much a you can- and if you don't ask for child support - maybe he will stay away- what he did is inexcusable!! Been there-take care-D
2006-11-21 18:23:07 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Serendipity...........don't put his name on the birth certificate. As long as you don't care if he pays child support, there's not really much he can do if there's no legal documentation the child is his.
2006-11-21 18:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋