do i have to invite everyone in my family?

Question

i recently got engaged do i have to invite everyone in my family and his because we have big families i need help

Answer 1

You should make a list of everyone in your family...then, put an "A" next to everyone who absolutely must be invited or you couldn't live without inviting. Next to everyone else put a "B"...send out invites to all of the "A" invitees first (about 8 weeks before the wedding) and for every regret you get back from the "A" list, send out an invite to the "B" list...its all about prioritizing!!!

Answer 2

When you say everyone, I assume you mean aunts, uncles, nieces, nephews, etc, etc, etc. No you don't have to invite all of them. This is the basics, invite your and his parents and siblings, and grandparents. If there is one or to others in the extended family that you or he are really close to, invite them. After the wedding, you can send out an announcement to those family members that you didn't invite, just don't expect a gift after the fact.
Although the biggest factor in planning on who to invite is the cost of the reception, maybe you could get someone in the family to help out. For my wedding reception, most costly part of the wedding, I ordered a fruit and veggie platter, made homemade dips for each, and instead of a fancy dinner, we just stuck with appetizers that were simple to make. Then you just have the expense of the cake.
Remember this, if you are getting married it is about you and your man, not the families, but they like to be there. If cost is the problem:
1. Have guests RSVP, that way you know how many to expect
2. Don't do a big fancy shindig with fancy food. Have a fancy shindig, with food that you have made fancy.
3. You are the bride, doesn't tradition dictate that the father of the bride shoulder a good portion of the expense of the wedding and reception.
Relax, do what your hearts say is best for you. It is your wedding, not anyone elses, please you and your man.

Answer 3

I would invite everyone that was close to you and the same for him. I would also invite anyone else in your family that might find out about the wedding from the family members you invited. It avoids hard feelings.

Answer 4

You have to really be careful cause feeling can get hurt and you don't to start your marriage on a bad note. What I did is I printed put 2 invitations one for the dinner and one for the celebration that way everyone was invited and there was no hurt feelings.

Answer 5

You can invite the heads of families only, and tell them you're not having a big party that's why you need representatives but cannot invite all.

Answer 6

i am going through this now. there will be hurt feelings if someone is left out so this is what we are doing. Justice of the peace with just our parents and then a little reception for friends and family who want to drop by and come share with us. No gifts!!!! that was clear on invitations like that no one is hurt that they have to give gifts but weren't allowed at the ceremony. works great everyone is happy.

Answer 7

I would only invite the family members that your close to and keep in regular contact with. That way you don't look like your just inviting them for the gifts.

Answer 8

Who is going to be paying for the wedding? How much money is budgeted for the wedding? Once you know those things you will have a clearer idea of who you can invite to the wedding, and no you don't have to invite everyone.

Answer 9

No, you don't have to invite everyone. But, you do have to invite everyone in certain groups. Here's a breakdown of how I did it, but you might have certain groups that are closer to you. The list goes from order of importance.

We started with adding our immediate families to the list (parents and siblings), and then we added grandparents. After that, we added our aunts & uncles (our parent's siblings). We still had room on our list, so then we added our first cousins (our parent's siblings children). However, space was getting tight, so we did not add dates for anyone under the age of 18.

We still had a bit of room for family on our guest list, so then we added my grand aunts and uncles (our grandparent's siblings) but not his, because I am much closer to those relations than he is to his. Then we ran out of room, so we did not add our grand aunt's and uncle's children and their families, which I think would be our second cousins.

Answer 10

Only the ones you want to keep in contact with is right
Ask you parents who you have to invite.