my friend is having a bf he is always busy with his work, meet her only on sundays.now her family is telling her to get married but he is telling to wait .her family doesnt know about him.he also tells her that she has to cook the food but she doesnt like he tells her if she wont cook the food then he wont marry her.now she s confused that whether she should wait for him for 2 yrs or should do arrange marriage? he is serious about her and is very intelligent and good looking and
one more thing that she is rich and he is from middle class family so she dont like n dont know how to cook
2006-11-21 18:03:48 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why should only Indians answer this? Do you not value our opinions? How would you feel if a question was asked that 'only non Indians' could answer?
Get with the real world. The internet is international, and those who still think along nationalistic lines should stick to their primitive ways.
2006-11-21 18:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Young girls get eluded in such an age but realise after marriage the value of married life. Firstly she should tell her parents about this guy and let them see him and know his real background. Secondly cooking is not a job which only poor or middle class ladies do there are many rich ladies who enjoy cooking and why only ladies even males from different section of society know cooking and i am one of those guys, so no harm learning cooking. Lastly why waiting for 2 years when parents of both side get involved this issue can be sorted out easily, I don't thing there is any problem if she is rich and he middle class until he is working and afford a wife.
2006-11-22 02:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cooking food has nothing to do with marriage. However, marriage has got a direct impact on the rich and middle status of the girl and boy in general and in the present context particularly. Having a hand-on-experience for cooking food could be attained by a week or so. However, first let her disclose her liking with her family and then come for any remedial answers accordingly!
2006-11-22 03:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see looks aren't going to matter the most in a relationship! and marriage is such an institution in our indian society. The guy must also understand her and adjust. if he wants a cook he can always hire one! why marry! nothing wrong in cooking and doing the household chores! but this should not be the issue for deciding on a marriage! this guy sounds to be a workoholic! one should not make a fuss about cooking, your friend may learn and cook but it should not be the case of being locked away in the house hold all the time. ask your friend to take a careful decision before choosing this man!
ask her to disclose this to her family and ask their opinion too! and at times arranged marriages do work wonders! good luck to you and your friend!
2006-11-22 02:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with Rahul above.
Mr Martin the question was addressed to Indians as others may not be well versed with Indian culture and no offence meant to people of other nationality, I do apologise as an Indian if it has been misunderstood.
Mr The Secrets - The Indians bastards have some values and culture and are producing children with the same and not like you who copulate like animals and produce BASTARDS galore out off wedlock and have ruined your country. Your answer also shows how illiterate you are not to know that at least 75% Indians are non vegetarians and also a substantial no of Westerners are also turning vegetarians, wish you had read Mr Martins reply which was more polite and appropriate, but Oh how could you - after all you had to show how stupid and illiterate you are.
2006-11-22 03:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by Raja R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I personally think your friend should get out of this relationship as soon as possible.
And the only reason is social disparity, For me cast and religion doesn't matter to get married as long as the social status matches but if it doesn't, then the harsh realities of life kills the love that once existed.
She not only have to cook food but wash cloths, clean up the house, take care of the kids, or maybe work too to meet the expences, She might not have done so in her life and would get frustrated and will soon seek way out of the relationship.
I personally think she can't take it further than 2 years after her marriage with this guy.
2006-11-22 03:13:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can be good and yet incompatible. His being intelligent and good looking can do nothing for his values that he seems to have. I think the confusion stems from their incompatibility. She has to tell her bf frankly that she cannot think of a life where she has to cook or do household chores because she is not used to them and do not want them to be a part of her daily routine and if he really thinks that it is very important for him that his wife should cook, perhaps they should separate their ways because the point may be small but it only goes to show that their attitudes, views and ideas on lifestyles do not match. Perhaps it will be heartbreaking to them both but it will be a wise decision. Then she can go for arranged marriage if she likes the groom.
2006-11-22 02:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see swetha...it all depends on how they like each other. As u r saying...if she gets married to a stranger..and he also demands the same what he is now doing...then she has to compromise.
1st of all her family does not know him. Ask her to be true to her parents by telling the truth. At the most they will not speak for a few days..or weeks. She must be more than 18 years. Keep her certificates carefully, incase if she goes away with him and her parents lodge a kidnap complaint ...they should have some weapon.
it is better if sheopens to her family about the truth, instead of getting afraiding by not telling. So far she is depending on her family..parents, and now all of a sudden she does like this, she is leaving her parents spiting on their face with an insult.
He may be middle class by his economic conditions....but how does he thinks? he wants his wife to be with him only at home.
See...today's eenadu news paper 2nd page. about lovers death in hyderabad. if she wants to convence her parents, let them go through such news for a while and then she can open to her parents the truth.
Anyway ..I too wish ur friend the best of her life time as long as she lives.
2006-11-22 05:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an ans from an Indian
That guy dosent want a wife he wants a servant, tell dat gal to go wid the arrange marriage she will b happy, This guy seem to b very dominating & after marraige will definately be a problem.
Coz in such matters one cant live just wid love, they need to b practical & then choose the rigth path, coz after sumtime it will get as hell.
The starting point of a relationship itself has raised a question, think how will it work????
2006-11-22 11:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by simple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
marriage is more of an adjustment than any thing, so to cook or not is a different thing, one can always learn cooking but to marry a right person is important. Both the persons should sit and talk and they should also talk to there respective parents and may be solution will come out.
Best of luck
2006-11-22 05:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by ap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look before u leap.
Think and Act never urge
whatever it may be only she should decide not even you.Coz it's her life in the future she should not feel that because of u or others she married him and worring sha should do what she feel right may be harsh or helpless but this the only thing good for let her think and decide by her known just help her never suggest her.Coz she is the one who EXACTLY know the situation and about him
2006-11-22 04:04:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋