I've known him for about two and a half months now, and have recently started dating him. He's amazing, hes great, hes honestly everything I could have ever hoped for in a guy. But the situation kind of scares me. We're both relatively young and have already told eachother (without using the exact words) that we love eachother. I honestly COULD see me spending the rest of my life with this guy...So, I suppose what I'm really asking is...is it bad for us to be so close so early? We've got a real connection...but I'm really afraid that being this close this early could ruin everything...?
2006-11-21 17:57:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just remember this. Once you say I love you you better mean it. Goes for him too. Cause if you are all lovey dovey, and oh your the greatest, I love you, your perfect.. and then you decide you dont want him and dump him. Prepare for him to be extremely bitter. Girls dont understand sometimes why guys cant be there friends after they had been dating. And we can, as long as we were not lead on. So if you mean it. Say it. But make sure you mean it with all your heart, and your not just saying it cause you like him alot.
2006-11-21 18:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cody B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it like 4 more months before you fall head over heels. Or at least before you admit that you are head over heels. Relationships need time to grow and you need time to get to know him better. If you don't know what his greatest childhood memory was, what was his favorite pet, what was his room like growing up, what is the best thing his mom cooks in his opinion- things like this then you don't need to take it too far. Know him in and out. It's not bad to be so close as long as you know that you need to spend time developing a relationship. Someone could say "we've dated 5 years" and in those five years have seen that other person every two weeks. Where as you can say "We've dated 2 months" and you really have seen each other 5 times a week. Thus you may know him better than that 5 year relationship knows their partner. If you love him though- you love him. :) Good luck.
2006-11-21 18:03:22 · answer #2 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel like you're rushing at this, or what is the problem?
Sounds like a great healthy connection.
As far as the too early to say I love you question...
Yeah for me it's always too early. I'd much rather feel the weight of a stare, or undeniable body language, and raw energy, than to hear those dredded three little words that when spoken without sufficient evidence to support the claim can open up Pandoras box, just way too heavy at this stage, for me anyway. Good luck...
2006-11-21 18:11:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's the funny thing about love, it comes when you don't realize it is there. Just take your time....you can love someone, but that doesn't mean you have to spend the rest of your life with them. At around 6-9 months, you may see a few things change. Good luck.
2006-11-21 18:01:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it isn't a bad thing to be too close to soon...if that is really how you feel. Ask yourself if you really love him? I know from experience that you can love a guy but not be in love with him. I thought I was in love with him, but didn't find out what real love was until I had moved on and met my current boyfriend. So, ask yourself are you really in love with him? If yes, then who's to say it is too early? Follow your heart. If it says that you love him, then sure....go ahead and tell him so.
2006-11-21 18:07:17 · answer #5 · answered by Androgyny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of this query is particularly stressful to respond to. a lot of human beings will argue that "little ones" won't be in a position to be in love. it particularly is now not real, they'd, yet i think of specific age communities somewhat misconstrue the real which capacity of affection. As a young person, one has now not gained adequate existence experience to acknowledge the variation. it could take quite some falling and failing beforehand somebody masters the pastime. Sounds dumb, yet i think of all and sundry will experience their actual love quicker or later, in spite of if it would not artwork out. As for youthful love, whilst i became 13, i became so unquestionably specific i became in love with this guy. i'd seek advice from him each, unmarried day. We did now not date, yet once I informed him how I felt, and issues merely dwindled, my coronary heart felt broken. I gave up on the actuality that maybe it wasn't meant to be. in spite of each thing, i became 13. I informed him I enjoyed him, it went no the place, we've been little ones. yet, i'm now not arguing it particularly is now not conceivable. because of the fact at 14, I met my maximum suitable chum. i became in eighth grade, and that i met a quiet, super-shy, guy who purely had women as pals. We became inseparable. We began courting our Freshman 12 months of highschool - 2004 - and wager what, we are nevertheless courting! occurring 8 years now! Granted, whilst we first began courting, we've been 15, and that i'm 22 now. No breakups, no breaks, long, stressful courting artwork. i think of its conceivable to be in love at a youthful age, notwithstanding it particularly does take time for a coronary heart to truly love. reliable success! :)
2016-12-17 14:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by beisler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E.g.
A women loves a man a bit too much...but she is thinking about the perfect things to do to have the perfect husband n wife relation in the future. but then she made a mistake(which only her thinks it is a mistake)by saying "I love you" too early without using the exact words.
Few months lata, her worries and regrets turned to depression and they broke up
Advice: dont worry bout that, its never too early too late. it was always that simple
Live wif it, its life. not meant to be perfect feel wats coming towards u n do it
2006-11-21 18:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think its better to let nature takes its part..the biggest mistake that peopel do especially when they are in a relationship is that they want to be in control of their heart and not the heart to decide. its goo dthat u found something you like..but its better to let it flow. dont decide when is the right..say it when u thing n feel it right..no matter how long it takes, it will be worth whil ewhen it comes from the heart. Good Luck
2006-11-21 18:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Hanson 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Saying I Love you so soon might ruin everything, but keep your fingers crossed and wish for the best.
2006-11-21 18:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i had the same problem
talk to him about it, he'll understand, whne you're ready to say i love you, you'll say it, and you wont be scare...
remember, what starts fast ends fast.... so keep it slow and you two willl live happily ever after.
best wishes.
2006-11-21 18:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by gandhi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋