My sister in law (my husband's brother's wife) refuses to let us see her daughter whenever someone in the family does or says something to offend or anger her. It's not usually over a major issue, just a minor disagreement or oversight. I feel that it's just punishing my four year old niece. Frankly I'm shocked that my brother in law allows this behavior. What would you do? Is there something I could say to her without starting a fight?
2006-11-21 17:56:28 · 12 answers · asked by Chellebelle78 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
She doesn't let you see her child again until you deliver her a heartfelt apology. Which is usually rediculous because she gets angry over total non-issues. (ie: you passed the peas to the left instead of the right so she would have to wait the longest.)
2006-11-21 18:03:54 · update #1
My sister-in-law has done this in the past too. It's completely immature and ridiculous, and all is does is hurt her daughter because she's not allowed to see family members she loves. The end result is that everyone in the family kisses my sister-in-law's *** so they'll still be able to see my niece...which is exactly the way my sister-on-law wants it. Unfortunately, there's not much anyone can do about this behavior.
2006-11-21 18:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by AshletD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the sister-in-law needs to grow up. I don't know if it is your place to say anything, she already knows what she is doing and she may make it worse for your niece. It is a touchy situation and obviously she gets set off by the small stuff. If you can say something to your brother-in-law, without him running back to tell his wife, then I would try that route. Or maybe have your husband say something to him, though I bet he wants to stay out of it! if you bring it up to her she may feel attacked so if you just have to say something to her before you blow your top...make it as casual and as sweet as possible. You could also be diplomatic and just tell her that we all have feelings and opinions and though you all may not agree your intentions are never meant to offend or anger anyone. And that you never want to treat anyone in the family unfairly. She may looking for someone to stand up to her yet not point the finger directly at her. Good luck!!
2006-11-21 18:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a cousin who is doing the same thing to her daughter, she doesn't let her daughter visit her siblings or parents due to jealousy issues. Its horrible because the little girl loves her cousins and isn't allowed to see them.
Two things i would try is talk to your husband ans see if he will talk to his brother about it.
The second thing, just apologize no matter how stupid the reason is. If you think the child is being affected just step up and deal with her drama to benefit the daughter.
2006-11-21 18:32:20 · answer #3 · answered by Julie V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm ... there is probably nothing you can say that won't p*ss off a person like that.
And, I'm afraid, you don't really have any rights in this kind of situation.
Hang in there and try to stay on her good side. Be nice to your niece and tell her you all love her. But don't do anything but be available.
Sorry.
2006-11-21 18:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by tigglys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can I say? Your brother married a petty, neurotic psycho. There's nothing that can help except a complete personality overhaul....and I doubt your sister in law even recognizes the problem. I guess you should pity her- can you imagine going through life so warped and easily thrown off?
2006-11-21 18:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope. there's nothing you can do or say that wouldn't make matters worse. the constitution of the united states gives parents the "right to raise their children as they see fit".. of course there have been amended issues... like child abuse..
i have had in-laws disrespect me and disrespect my children and hence, i cut them off from communication with the children for the SAKE OF THE CHILDREN. i don't want my children growing up thinking that the behavior of "those people" is acceptable... just the same as i sensor television programs that are not suitable.
2006-11-21 18:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 09:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It most certainly is NOT ok. Tell your sister-in-law that the punishment isn't on you or your niece, but on her because it adds just one more responsibility to her list to keep her away from you. Good luck :)
2006-11-21 18:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kaylie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it's extremely immature,you still shouldn't be the one to saying anything. It should be left up to your husband. They are brothers so hopefully it will be easier for them to discuss. GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-21 18:03:17 · answer #9 · answered by Audee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's just best to stay out of it. I am sorry, I'm not trying to sound rude, but sometimes meddling will just make it worse.
2006-11-21 18:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by mommymommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋