My (now ex) bf was pressuring me into doing things I'm not ready for, so I broke up with him and I'm now dating his(now ex) best friend because he 1,brought me out of the depths of denial.2,treats me like I'm a human being. and 3,loves me for my pesonality and doesn't base our realationship primarily on looks or my body...Anyways, now I feel sorry that my ex is alone, but yet I don't for what he did to me...Am I wrong to feel sorry??? Please answer, I'd really appreciate it~
2006-11-21 17:53:42 · 8 answers · asked by haleybopster 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, do not feel sorry for your ex...to tell you the truth, it might bring him to reality. A person shouldn't be judged primarily on how one looks, but like you said personality. Just think when you guys are 60...old and grey what will last? Your looks or personality? You did what you felt was right and what makes you happy. Besides, if he treated you like this at the beginning of the relationship and can't respect you, then later on it just gets worse. In due time, he'll find someone that is better equipped for him. I think you did the right thing. Why be with a person that makes you uncomfortable, when you can enjoy another person's company that treats you like a queen? Would you take a $1.00 over $10.00? Looks to me that you picked the $10.00 and are alot happier. Besides, don't feel sorry for him...you did the right thing. In the long run you, the $10.00 will go a long way then the buck in your pocket :-)
2006-11-21 18:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by ALI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shdn't need to feel sorry for your ex-bf. He doesn't deserve your sympathy. Because if your ex-bf really loves you, he'll sure understand you why you're not giving in to him. And if he really loves you, he'll respect you and not pressurising you doing things you don't like or not ready for. I'm really glad you've made the right decision in leaving him. Don't you feel happier that you've found a greener and better pasture? Pls don't feel sorry for someone who doesn't respect you. I'm also glad that your current bf loves you the way you're and accept for who you're! Be content with your present bf and forget the pasts. What's done has been done with and carry on with happy life with your bf now. I'm sure in no time, you'll feel lesser for your ex-bf. Don't let him haunt you and affect your current and blissful relationship!
2006-11-22 01:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was wrong and immature for pressuring you. By pressuring you, he showed he really didn't care for you. This was a good decision on your part. Don't ever allow anyone the power to make you do something you don't want to do or that isn't good for you. The consequences are always too great. Don't feel sorry for him, he has moved on to the next girl he is trying to pressure.
2006-11-22 01:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by searious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shows that your a sensitive person. If he was pushing you to do things that you weren't ready for then you made a wise choice. So don't feel guilty. Pat yourself on the back. Best wishes.
2006-11-22 01:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are very mature..If you ever cared for someone, you should always want them happy, and that is very healthy. Most people would hate him. Good for you.
2006-11-22 02:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by rynay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you made the wise choice to break-up... always go with your first instincts...they are never wrong..!!..
The best friend looks to be compassionate and caring for you ..and like's you for who you are...
do not feel sorry.!!. for the break-up ...sounds like you got a second chance with a gentleman looking for.the right young Lady..so.!!. ...and it is you...Good Luck..
2006-11-22 02:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by david 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no right or wrong. You either feel sorry or you don't. You cannot control your emotions. You can feel sorrow without wanting him back.
2006-11-22 01:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always care for the people that you love, and if you loved him then on some level you will want him to be happy.
but always remember that relationships are not about ONE person's happiness
2006-11-22 01:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by annc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋