Ever since I have gotten a car, I have had to drive my boyfriend everywhere. this started about 2 years ago. now it's getting ridiculous. I drive a truck that sucks gas like you wouldn't belive too. and also, he'll call from the bar at 2 am wanting a ride home. he doesn't even walk to my house (he's only 5 blocks away) if i didn't drive over 5 blocks to get him, i wouldn't see him. it's not just money, it's the fact he doesn't think it's a big deal. I do this so he doesn't freeze his butt of (and plus he'll make me feel guilty if I don't get him) but even the other night, i picked him up, drove him to bar, picked up from bar, drove to work, picked up from work, drove back to bar, picked back up from bar, drove to his friends house, picked him up from friends house. This went on from 8 pm till 4 am. and he says that i don't do anything for him, that driving him doesn't qualify as doing something for him. he doesn't do anything for me! I even have to beg for a hug. what do I do?
2006-11-21 17:49:38 · 16 answers · asked by Bitterly Sweet 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel very unappriciated. I just wish he'd understand.
2006-11-21 17:51:26 · update #1
Have you ever asked yourself why he is at a bar without you? That is a place where guys pick up girls and girls hit on guys and they don’t care if the guy has a girlfriend. Do you pick him up every time he goes there? If not then he must be going home with someone else, maybe a girl. Even if you do pick him up every time he may still be screwing around and then coming back to the bar afterward. He sounds like a looser to me. This is what you have to look forward to for the rest of your life if you stay with him. You will be in delivery with his child and he will be at the bar. You will be at home with a sick child or sick yourself and he will be at the bar. You will be working to support him and his habit soon and he will be at the bar all day if you let this go on. The next time he is at the bar go out somewhere else, not a bar, and meet some nice guys who will treat you right. You can do better than this. Have some respect for yourself and get a real man that will respect you back. §
2006-11-21 18:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you driving him around so he can hang out with everyone else EXCEPT you. He is using you. Stop feeling sorry for him. He is perfectly capable of walking or finding another means of transportation (or simply staying home, like OTHER people do when they don't have a car). Guilt tripping you has worked before, so he knows it will work again. He thinks you'll always be there to cater to his every whim, because you've been doing it for so long (and he doesn't even offer gas money? Damn!). Throw him a curve. Next time he calls and asks for a ride, tell him no. Tell him you're busy. Tell him you just don't feel like it. If he gets mad, tell him to grow up and find another sucker.
2006-11-22 01:59:51 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend sounds like a control freak. He wants to keep you under his thumb and order you around like a servant. If this guy was mine, I would tell him to hit the road and find someone else to walk all over and take advantage of. Good Grief, why do women feel they have to put up with this nonsense from men. Tell him to walk, thumb a ride or better yet, get his own car and waste his own gas hauling his a-- around! Don't do it anymore and get rid of him. I'm sure you could do a lot better. Begging for a hug, what kind of creep is this guy!!!!!
2006-11-22 02:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the only thing your doing wrong is being a considerate girlfriend, however, sometimes this can come back and bite you on the butt. Seems your boyfriend has forgotten how to appreciate what a blessing you are in his life. Maybe you you should remind him! Don't answer the phone if he calls @ 2 am he'll soon remember he should appreciate your kindness and not expect you to do what he should be doing 4 himself
2006-11-22 01:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What you're doing wrong is allowing him to dictate what you're going to do and when, and it all has to benefit him.
Get a spine and stand up for yourself. Tell the jerk you'll pick him up from home or take him home, but not both. Let him wear a warm coat if it's that cold.
Don't take him to a bar, or work, that's all his responsibility.
You're supposed to be his gf, not his personal cabbie.
Just don't answer next time, and spend your new free time finding someone who will appreciate you and what you do.
2006-11-22 02:02:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just using you and I don't feel that he loves you at all, because all he does is complain and whins. You picking and dropping him at the bar qualifies as doing something for him, and if he doesn't appreciate that well you tell him to find his own way and that you are not doing it anymore. Enough is Enough. My mama used to say"You need to drop that zero and get you a hero". Someone who will appreciate and treat you like a lady should be treated.
2006-11-22 01:58:48 · answer #6 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I tell you what! If you can cook like you drive? I WANT YOU!
Otherwise ask him if you look like a taxi-cab driver?
Honestly I think he doesn't appreciate the hardship he is putting you threw. Not to mention the idea of disrespecting your relationship to enjoy himself at a bar without your presence
and your ok with that? Your allowing way to much! No wonder
your his choice of female.... He gets ...your wanting...
I'M the type of man that can make a man real jealous...So if you
need my help give me a holler.. All i ask is a ride to Las Vegas!
....lol
Good luck you beautiful hearted Woman!
2006-11-22 02:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by FLEXizme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can you say usssseeeerrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know you might not want to believe it, but your being used. And on top of that, you have to beg for a hug????????? Please, it's time to let that go. Life is too short to be driven Mr. Daisy. Does he even give you gas money? But you know what, gas money or not, he has to go. It's a whole world out there. Whats wrong, do you think you deserve that treatment? Well you don't. Take some time for yourself. Find out what makes you happy and do it. Then find someone who can help you keep that happiness not take it away.
God Bless
2006-11-22 01:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by vacera g 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aaawww.... I'll give you a hug anyday. Seems like your relationship with him has hit the point where it's routine and girl... he's taking you for granted.
It's a problem to you (driving him around) - but he doesn't know this. He needs to be on the same page as you. One more thing... he better be aware that he needs to work on himself if he wants to keep you as his girl. Right now, he's taken it for granted that you'll stick around. You need to shake him off his safety net and wake him up.
Time to hit the road girl.
2006-11-22 01:54:57 · answer #9 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be a caretaker which is good but can be unhealthy if taken too far (you've gone too far)
LET him freeze, MAKE him walk, and if he gets lost on the way to your house put up a missing dog sign and DO NOT offer a reward...
2006-11-22 02:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by rynay 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋