there is a vision of beuty and i want to tell her how i fell. we are sorta friends(we talk everyday) and i am kinda shy, i also have many ways os telling hr like myspace and notes and having my friends talk to her. but she has a bf that doesn't deserve her caus he suckz(he always has not just becaus of this). so i am wondering if anyone has an idea of how i could tell her without being straight forward but still telling her myselfe.
if someone would help it would be highly appreciated.
2006-11-21 17:26:02 · 12 answers · asked by n8tive_b0y071 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am also not one of the most popular kids at school but i also am not supper unpopuler so plz help me.
2006-11-21 17:26:49 · update #1
Ok, first of all....whatever you do...your best bet is NOT to tell her through an e-mail or note and definitely not through your friends! If you wanna tell her, build up that confidence and tell her in person. If you can hold your head up, look her directly in the eyes and tell her calmly how you feel....Also, you don't want to tell her that you think her boyfriend sucks. If you do that, she will become defensive and she'll get angry with you. Get a time when you guys are semi-alone to talk. Tell her how you feel about her, but be understanding that she does have a boyfriend.
2006-11-21 18:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Androgyny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get in the middle of someone's relationship, even if you think the other person is a jerk. It always back fires and makes you look like the bad guy. Just be supportive, and stay friends. Her relationship will probably end sooner if not later if he's really a jerk. Then she will need a good friend to help her through the break up.
2006-11-22 01:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by jblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, I just recently began a new relationship myself and am going through the same thing you are, believe me. My late bf, Aaron, was pressuring me(to put it lightly) into doing things I wasn't ready for. Anyways, Aleks, our friend for a few years(the type I wouldn't notice standing in the corner not making even a whisper) tries and tries to tell me that I am being treated like dirt, which I was, and that I deserved more than that. After so long, I finally break up with Aaron solely because Aleks brought me to the light where I was no longer in denial, but could see how Aaron had been treating me. So after that, Aleks tells me he loves me and that he had nothing to really offer me but his protection, love, and a long healthy life(if we ever got to that)in a nice warm home. II said yes to Aleks, of course, and we haven't an arguement yet.*knock on wood*...Our stories are practically the same just a few tips...Ask her in person...it shows confidense!...tell her the entire truth...don't sugar things up, keep them real...That's all I have to tell ya and the best of luck to ya, friend!!!
2006-11-22 01:40:41 · answer #3 · answered by haleybopster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a bf, you have to let it run its course. Pull back, and don't linger around her, since you are only sorta friends, there might be some hope for you. Keep a safe distance and if/when this thing she has with this other dude goes to crap, give her time to recover then make your feelings known.
2006-11-22 01:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a spot, privately, and do something like a picnic, or a romantic something or whatever... then start out soft and then go into the big question . . . like this:
"Hey, your boyfriend did (blah blah) and I was wondering why you like him so much. (She says blah blah blah)and you say:Well, I will alwas be your friend and I was thinking that if you and Boyfriend don't work out, I think that we could try being a couple, at least for a while, and if you don't like it, that's cool. Please pass the cider."
Good Luck!
2006-11-22 01:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if the boyfreinds a jerk you should tell her she deserves better first. some girls around your age dont mind being treated like crap because they feel the feeling they have can last forever. if she tells you she knows she can do better but she doesnt want to be alone theres your chance, but if not be acsepting of things and rember your better off freinds instead of nothing.
2006-11-22 01:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by fin_the_band 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have an expression down here..... Never cut another man's lunch!
You are trying to muscle in on a girl who is in a relationship. Shame on you. Where are your morals? If you were after my girlfriend I would totally kick your butt
2006-11-22 01:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by exaluva 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does being popular have to do with it??? She has a boyfriend, no matter how much you think he sucks, she is with him...For you to tell her how you feel and she is with someone is wrong...That would hake you the one that sucks...Wait till she isn't dating the other guy, but stay her friend....
2006-11-22 02:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, you can tell her that you like her via email or a note... since you are shy. in person is always better though. just do it!!!
2006-11-22 01:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man... props to exaluva.
2006-11-22 01:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋