There is this guy who likes me...I know him (as in acquaintance), but not really know him( as in good friend). We talk about once or twice a day for about 5 minutes at a time, and one day he asked me out. I don't really like him, but he isn't a bad guy. He's pretty nice and friendly. What do I do?
2006-11-21 17:14:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest. Since you said "he's pretty nice and friendly" then just be polite about it, but DO be honest. Just simply tell him you appreciate the offer, but you are not interested in him in that manner. IF he is a "nice guy" although he may not like your answer, he will appreciate your honesty. Much easier and better to be polite and honest now, then to give a false impression, string him along, and have to hurt him worse later.
2006-11-21 17:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by ~Untold Wisdom~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a guy that was on the opposite end of the same thing, I could only say one thing, make a decision, stick with it, and do not lead him on because things get so messy if an unclear decision is made. Regarding the decision, it seems like you only want to be his friend, so just be his friend, don't force yourself into some situation you don't want. I know you have a guilty conscience when you think of saying no, but think of the pain you cause him if you say yes, but don't really connect.
2006-11-22 01:21:33 · answer #2 · answered by mikee5432 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is advisable that you proceed exchanging conversation for more than 5 mins in order to establish what he is really after. don't just refuse to go out with him. It might turn out that you really enjoy yourself and discover life from another perspective. If someone is really nice and friendly doesn't mean that he is not only after one thing. So better not fall into a trap whereby you don't know how to get out. But anyway we are all human and should not be afraid to make mistake cause we finally learn from our mistakes.
2006-11-22 01:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cooper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont' really like him don't play with his emotions he obviously likes you and for you to pretend would be wrong. Politey say your not interested in dating anyone at this time( even if you are he doesn't have to know) this way he doesn't feel so bad thats its just himm you dont' want to date. your saying no one at this time. but if you like him as a friend say we can still be friends and just catch a coffee now and then. If he's looking for more than that from you he won't call you again he has enough friends he's not looking for that in you.
2006-11-22 01:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's really nice, then go out with him once. If you don't feel any chemistry, just be upfront and honest with him about it and tell him that you really like hanging out with him, but you don't have those kind of feelings for him. If nothing else, it's not bad to have a good friend.
2006-11-22 01:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by Tgrman80 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
SO you don't really like him. So why waste time. Smile politely and say that you are engaged for the day. May be next time. Leave it at that until you really find him good enough to give him a chance. Otherwise there are many polite excuses you can use.
2006-11-22 01:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you could give it a try, maybe you will find out he is interesting of some sort, but no matter what you do , dont try to make him feel that you are going somewhere or that you are headed for a relationship, just keep it friendly, if you find out he is something and i mean really something, then that instantly becomes a bonus
just be careful that you dont give hints that he might interpret in another way, be in control
2006-11-22 01:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't like him, don't get involved, tell him you always have something else to do. Don't let him think that he may have a chance and then just get hurt. Someone once said to me; "Don't start something that you may not be able to end".
2006-11-22 01:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not give him a chance and go out for coffee or something like that. Whats the worst that could happen?
2006-11-22 01:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he want to take you out on a date then you can always ask him if he wants to make it a double. That way you can bring a friend if you feel uncomfortable being alone with him.
2006-11-22 01:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋