My boyfriend and I have been dating for a while now. He was isolated as a child so he never had a real girlfriend until me. Because of his isolation, he is hesitant about sexual contact...he rarely talks about it around me...and he never makes a move on me. How do I tell him I want to take things further without making it seem like I'm pressuring him?
2006-11-21 17:13:48 · 12 answers · asked by Androgyny 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he a virgin? He may need some gentle coaching, don't push it if you make him nervous, but you should be able to persuade him, if there is passion in him. If he gets scared then just stop and hang onto him, take it one step at a time. He'll probably be embarassed afterwards and you may find him avoiding you, but seek him out if he does. Life in a monastary is overated.
2006-11-21 17:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow babe... tons of gals wan that kind of BF u have now... weet weet good for u gal...
anyway back to yer question... if u wanna move on, lead him... if the moving on u mention meant sex, just bring him to your room? his room? where there's no one and when there's no one too... get him comfy on the bed... tell him to relax and close his eyes... kiss him (step-by step) 1. forehead, 2. ear (one left or right depend where u sittin), 3. nose, 4. the lips (lips ONLY... not a french deep kiss), 5. the neck...
by the time u have done doing all this 1. he get's the hint (so it all depends on him whether he wanna stay and enjoy or he tells u to stop) 2.if u do this slow and sexily, u had gotten him in the mood...
one more thing... get him to wear a BUTTON-UP shirt... if it's a T-Shirt, it's harder to get it off him... and he might just snap out from yer lead and *POOF* mood's gone..
keep yer lips lock to his... get a deeper kiss everytime u took off one button... if u're scared that he might snap out, just do it SLOWLY as in a VERY passonate kiss and a very delicate off buttons fingers...
once u r off with shirt without him snap out... u know u got him... and meant that it's time to get yers off... (it will be better for u to get it off yerself)
hope this helps...
2006-11-21 17:24:47 · answer #2 · answered by Nitesky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuffy but 4 some reason i cant emagin a GUY having trouble going further he is probly afraid of affending u... if u just told him striaght up he would probly start touching pretty quick
2006-11-21 17:17:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to consider it is too soon for him to take it to the next level. He may want to wait until after marriage.
2006-11-21 17:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u take it further, sometimes guys get tired of or dont know how to take the lead, so just help him out and do it for him, if he doesnt want it, he'll stop u....he's a big boy....i hope
2006-11-21 17:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by foreveryoung 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a move on him.
2006-11-21 17:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey so and so, I have been thinking about our relationship, and I am thinking if it is okay with you that we take our relationship to the next level.
2006-11-21 17:17:02 · answer #7 · answered by Alternative Chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u make the move but make sure hes comfortable
2006-11-21 17:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have a surprise for him and blindfold him. If he stops you when you unzip his pants he's gay.
2006-11-21 17:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start taking off your clothes, he will see your subtle hints and follow.
2006-11-21 17:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by bec3tiny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋