2006-11-21 17:12:45 · 11 answers · asked by Andy8875 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Resentment usually comes in to play when a person feels like they are unheard, that the other party doesn't take their feelings into account, or they feel taken advantage of, put upon, or disregarded in some way. Communication is the key. If your partner does things that you just can't take, my question would be why you allow it? You have to set the boundaries. If you don't like something that is happening, stop it from happening by telling your partner that the behaviours and or actions aren't acceptable to you. You've given it a try and you don't like it. Don't attack. It puts people on the defensive and causes needless fights. Simply say "When you____, I feel____. (Don't say: You scare me when you yell! Say: When you yell, I feel afraid.)Lastly, I strongly suggest a relationship course. It may not be too late to salvage the love here by rebuilding the relationship. Learn to talk to each other, learn conflict resolution, and boundary setting. Practice with each other. If you are both willing, it can be mended. Nothing is etched in stone.
2006-11-21 17:24:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they aren't resolved the resentful feelings will stay!!
if the offending person hasn't made you feel like they are truly sorry for the hurt they caused you well the hurt will stay!!
but also if you just make up your mind to forgive them if they want forgiveness that will work also!!
& really you either forgive them or you leave them!!
2006-11-22 01:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can. Provided that they have admitted & are repentive (sorry) & don't keep reoffending. 'Cause then your back at square one again... admit, repent, etc.
Also, the resentful feelings can disappear w/time even if they don't say sorry. (The beauty of forgiveness in action.) But... if they reoffend, they're just opening up & adding to the old wound they tried to (forgive & forget) move on from.
2006-11-22 01:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on the individual if you want to make it work and you think you can get past what ever it is. then you will get over this hurttle but if your just masking it and not really believe it yourself then in time it will all come crashing down. so really think if this is something you or the other person can live with and carry on and get it out in the open then move on.
2006-11-22 01:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what your resentment is over, and if trust was violated. If trust was violated, as in a situation where infidelity is involved, then it never really goes away completely. If it was something else, something they did or said or whatnot, you'll get over it.
2006-11-22 01:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Vince 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends.. Details?
2006-11-22 01:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they will stay as long as you harbor a grudge towards them. if you don't fix the problem or at least address it then there will always be that nagging vioce in the back of your mind.
2006-11-22 01:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The memories of the cause of the feelings will always be there, but you can change their energy force.
2006-11-22 01:49:03 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the feelings dissapear. They are here to stay!
2006-11-22 01:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, but some beef is everlasting
2006-11-22 01:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by keithr2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋