ive been seeing this girl for a month now. she says she doesnt want a relationship ,but im the only guy she goes out wth or talks to. she doesnt want me to kiss her or hold her,but asks me to buy her things and take her out every weekend. i like her a lot but im worried this isnt going where i want it too. she asked me to thanksgiving dinner to meet her parents. what should i think is she taking it really really slow or useing me ?
2006-11-21 17:08:48 · 9 answers · asked by eddie w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told her last week i wasnt going to buy her anything but she still wants me to come over.she said it didnt matter she just wanted to spend time with me this week.im so confused lol
2006-11-21 17:22:39 · update #1
hmmm you keep buying her things and taking her places yet nothing else from her end however she wants you to meet her parents for thanks giving and when you said you don't have any gifts for her she said its fine. well thats a good step. before washing your hands completely of her .as she could just be really shy or wants to wait a very long time before anything and if you can handle that and can wait then continue dating her but check to see how many times she wants gifts from you .. your not a cash cow either and you dont' want to be used. show up places and do things but dont' always be ready to spend on her and see how she reacts. you'll know in time if it bothers her and thats the only reason she wanted you.. if not then she' just shy and maybe not sure what to do next.
2006-11-21 17:43:52 · answer #1 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with most of the other answers.
There could be many reasons why she doesn't want physical touch, e.g. she has been abused or raped. (It wouldn't have to be something THAT extreme.) Things like that would make her want to take things really slow. It does bother me that she asks you to buy her things and take her out, but that is part of a relationship, too. She sounds very confused. She also may be very young and unsure. Since she is not even talking to other guys, she may really like you but has some psychological things to work out. If she was really just playing you, I don't think she'd invite you to Thanksgiving dinner and want to go out every weekend. You said you told her you would stop buying her things. This will be the proof of the pudding. If she still wants to go out with you, then take things slow with her but try to get her talk about what's bothering her.
2006-11-22 01:42:26 · answer #2 · answered by David A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she wants u as a friend. Be her friend & try to date someone else. At least that way u could judge her reactions. If she questions u repeat her words & tell u want sex or what u call it "relationship". Make sure u dont buy her expensive gifts if that's what ur doing then I feel it might be the gifts that she's after.
2006-11-22 03:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weird...If you like her, dont buy anything and see how it goes...If she asked you to buy something, then run away really fast...Wait till after thanksgiving, heck its a free dinner....
2006-11-22 01:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Sir.
2006-11-22 01:18:00 · answer #5 · answered by sunsetconmartini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hate to tell you this but you have the right to kno i have a long history of playing guys and thats EXACTLY what it sounds like to me here she knos you like here and would do anything for her so she takes advantage of it like most girls would....try lowering the amout of things you do for her and see if things change you should kno the answer by thos resluts goodluck i hope im wronge for once
2006-11-22 01:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by chelsae c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she is using you, if she won't let you kiss her or even hold her and its been about a month..and asks you to buy her things
2006-11-22 01:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by DannyC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's using you
2006-11-22 01:15:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just not that into you. Leave while you still have your heart.
2006-11-22 01:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋