is my girlfriend trying to get me to break up with her or am i just a crappy boyfriend?

Question

i basically stayed over every night at my girlfriend and her parent's house. i recently moved out and got my own place (i gave her the chance to move in with me) and figured that if i established my own independence she would think a little bit better of me and i wouldn't be such a bum. over the past several months our relationship has basically been non-existent. on our two year aniversary i wanted to take her out, but we both work full time and go to school. she claimed she would probably be tired and that we should probably just stay in. instead that night she went out with her friends. obviously we had a big fight and fights have definitly been more frerquent lately. i keep trying to do things with her but she is always "busy". recently she took a trip to see her friends, she was gone for four days, she came back yesterday and i didn't hear from her. today i worked all day and when i got a chance to call her she was on her way with some friends to go shopping up north. she knew

that i was leaving tomorrow morning for five days to visit family. the only time we seem to see each other anymore is when she seems to need something. is she trying to get me to break up with her or do i need to do more? i need some advice please.

Answer 1

No you don't need to do more. you seem to be doing all of it on your own. Yes i would say this woman rather than her saying its over is distancing her self from you and hopes you take the hint and do the breaking up. she does't seem to miss you when your going away for a week and didn't want to make plans to see you b4 you left but had ample time to go with friends places. I would stop letting her use you to take her places when she needs to go your not a part time lover. either she wants in or out but no half way here.

You will have to make the decison obviously its bothering you to live this way and so it should. make a decision how you want to handle this..

bu bub buuu byyyyyyyye now

Answer 2

=( You poor thing. My heart goes out to you! I think you need to call her and make her listen, because it is important for her to hear what you have to say. Ask her what she wants and expects from your relationship and where she sees it going. You sound like you love her and want to be with her.. and.. she sounds like she's always 'busy' and has an excuse for everything. I think you deserve better. She doesn't make any time for you and from your description, she never puts you first. You really need to talk with her and see if you guys need to move on, or else compromise and make sacrifices to make things work; for Both of you! Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

My heart goes out to u buddy. But I ve to tell u this. Drop her pal. She is not worth ur time. Trust me. May b u ve been too possessive or physical with her. If u havn't then she is the bad girl. Drop her like a hot brick & never call back. The world is full of girls waiting to be wooed pal.