he thinks we're risking eternity, anyway. I'm not fully converted yet, so he is not allowed to consider me for marriage, and also our church is against dating. He says he can't be around me because of tempatations and not wanting to fall into sin...but my love for him is so intense, I don't care if we do go to Hell...how could God send us to Hell just for loving each other?
2006-11-21 16:34:12 · 45 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Stop and hear what you are saying. This life on earth, at most, is what...a hundred years? Eternity is for the rest of time, meaning, endless.
I don't know what you mean about "risking" eternity. Only those who are born again in Christ are saved and will escape hell. That being said, it is prudent to desire to do what God asks, rather than follow the lusts of our flesh. I do not mean to talk down to you, but you are deep into the lusts of your flesh. Love means patience, virtue and marriage....not this dramatic, I'll go to hell for you nonsense. Please consider your next steps very, very carefully.
2006-11-21 17:10:35 · answer #1 · answered by Esther 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I swear upon my honour as a StoryJunkie that this is true. These two people were in love, and gave in to their passions, and they were both of the same church. The woman became pregnant, and the church elders forbade them to marry until the child was born. The man thought that was nutty, so they married anyway. Well, the church cursed them, and they weren't allowed back. Even the kids at school, (Of the GRANDCHILDREN of this couple) would point fingers and scrape their pointer fingers at them and say "shame-d shame-d"
I'm not sure how this story will help you, just be careful of who you get tangled up with. Although, sometimes, its the start of a great adventure! If two people should be together and God meant it to be so, then it will be so, for it is God's will. If it is not, then it isn't. How you begin this relationship is laying the foundation for the rest of it. Maybe take a breather and re-asess your motives, your attraction. If you still feel the same after some time has passed, then you must decide how far to bend, and how far he will bend. When you are young, you are bendable, you see. When you are old, you become set in your ways. Good luck and Godspeed.
2006-11-21 17:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in earth did you come up with the idea that God will send you to hell because you have fallen in love? The only unpardonable sin is blasphemy against the Holy Ghost which can't be committed in this day and age as the circumstances under which it can be committed don't exist any more. Please have the Church elders explain to you where it states in the New Testament that you can't both be dating as this is the only way people can get to know each other. I would seriously suggest you have your future husband make a stand as a man and either change churches or have the elders explain themselves
2006-11-21 16:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I really feel for you! You never want to risk hell for anybody no matter how much you love them. However God would never send you or you friend to hell for loving each other. God is love and created love and blessed us with the ablility to love.I dont know what this religion is but just give it some time, it will be worth it. God bless you both!
2006-11-21 17:26:43 · answer #4 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation that you're in. But it happens to a lot of people even without the religious context. I know that I had girlfriends when I was younger that I thought I would do anything for; but looking back now I'm glad I didn't. I learned a lot about myself after those relationships, and figured out what was really important to me.
Your boyfriend seems to know what's important to him right now. You should respect that. If you really love him, you can wait until you can be together in a way he feels comfortable with.
Is it bad to feel that way? No. And you can't always get what you want. But you'll eventually get what you need.
2006-11-21 16:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by stevejensen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God will not send you to hell, but if you two love each other like you claim was the rush. Is this friendship leading to marriage or just you guys fornicating which the Lord is against.
2006-11-21 17:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this church you go to in the USA? If it is, you can tell them to go to hell.
Any organization that takes that much control of your personal life is called a " cult ".
Don't confuse Love and Lust. I understand it can be difficult to separate. Here's how..... Compare the time that you're are imagining having sex with him to not having sex with him. If sex is greater, than it's Lust. If not, then it's love.
Okay, church can not decide whether you can date or not. That's absurd. Dating is a needed thing when it comes to picking a life mate. What was their plan? Throw a bunch of names in to a hat? " and Eva's luck groom will be..
It's wrong. What they are doing is wrong. you just have to decide for yourself that sex is a bad idea until you are married. You control your actions. It's okay to ask God for help in situations like this. He's a very understanding Deity. Best wishes.
P.S. If you have any questions why sex is bad before marriage, consider all those poor, un-wed mothers that got lied to by a sexual predator and were left force to raise children on their own, or worse....
2006-11-21 16:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What church do you attend? What are you not fully converted to? Why is he not allowed to consider you for marriage? It sounds to me like you should both leave that religion and get married in another. There's no reason you shouldn't be able to get married if you share beliefs. An unbelieving wife can be sanctified by her husband.
2006-11-22 01:23:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sifu Shaun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not send people to Hell for loving. We all have to face our trials of temptations not run away from them or
hide from them. The church is teaching the wrong message. However, I hope that you will seriously consider
learning more about God first and never love any human
being more than God.
2006-11-21 17:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by shannondelaney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're really religious, take heed of Dante's Inferno. Hell, for these lovers, was being eternally separated from each other in a whirlwind. Always so close to one another, but were never able to come into contact.
It strikes me as pure misery....
2006-11-21 21:37:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋