I had made contact with a very attractive girl on match.com.
We talked/imd/emailed back and forth several times about 3 months ago.
She was actually in the process of relocating near where I lived (no not because of me because of work/family)
She told me repeatedly that she was swamped with buying a new home, packing up her old condo and moving 150 miles.
She told me that she was hoping to be moved in a about 4 weeks (this would have been 2 months ago today)
I haven't heard from her in three months at all. I tried calling her once and looked for a lot online. I accidentally deleted her email, so I couldnt find her !
I finally saw she was online last night and im'd her. She acted surprised and happy to hear from me. She said she tried iming me a couple times/calling twice but never got a reponse. Ack !
So we ended up talking last night for hours.
She is so cute and seems great.
But is it weird that I didnt see or hear from her for 3 months ?
Thats a long time.
2006-11-21 16:34:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BIG problem is I just started dating new girl 3 weeks ago.
I liek the new girl, but this other girl I finally made contact with again is really special seeming. Very attractive, sweet and down to earth.
Im cracking up here.
To trust or not to trust ?
2006-11-21 16:35:18 · update #1
I should add that Im 29 , girl Im dating is 30 and so is the 'hot' girl who suddenly reappeared.
Ive already done my share of playing around and looking for a serious relationship now.
That is why I am wondering whether to go for this dreamgirl (she alo wants something serious, i just dont know if its with me)
2006-11-21 16:37:45 · update #2
and no i dont think she had another relationship. just sounds like she was very busy moving , packing/unpacking and starting new job.
she sounded like she didnt want to seem pushy chasing me when she couldnt make contact easily.
2006-11-21 16:40:49 · update #3
things are not that serious yet with girl Im seeing. We have only kissed once and she is constantly talking or with her friends so we ve been out 4 times.
The 'hot' girl who has returned seems much more easy going and 'cool' than the girl Im currently dating.
I guess I should have made more effort to find her and vice versa. She says she was disappointed she didnt hear from me, but that so not the case.
2006-11-21 17:45:58 · update #4
Too busy moving for three months??? Not a single email...im...message on your phone...nothing??? I think maybe you need to give the girl you are currently dating a chance...dream girl sounds too good to be true. If she tried im'ing you wouldn't you have received an offline message???
Don't you think it's unfair to the girl you've been dating to just all the sudden say oops sorry found the other girl I was talking with three months ago so see ya later? I mean you must be attracted to the girl you are currently with or you wouldn't be dating her...if dream girl is the one for you and it's meant to be you will find each other when the time is right.
How serious are things with your current girlfriend? Have you moved past the just getting to know you stage where you are both still seeing other people or have you made some sort of commitment? You now have a third party in the picture and need to consider her feelings as well. I hope you think long and hard before making a final decision...you know the grass is not always greener on the other side. Also have you thought maybe of just having a friendship with dream girl first...if there is one thing I have learned it is that friendship first makes a huge difference in how a relationship will progress. Exploring a friendship while dating someone else may give all of you a chance to see what the future holds without hurting someone's feelings. Who knows maybe you and the girl you are currently dating will decide that you are just better off as friends...there are lots of possibilities...try being honest with your current girlfriend and get her advice...you may be surprised.
2006-11-21 17:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by ginwill1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you have only been dating the other girl for three weeks that is not a "Commited Relationship" yet, I mean it takes much longer than that to decide if you want to commit to someone or not, I would see what developes with the other girl, seems to me by what you are saying that you may always wonder what could have been if you don't. Did you tell the girl you are dating now that you would only date her? or are you two still dating other people? I think alot depends on that. I always think it is good not to be commited or have sex with someone too soon so that you have options open to you. If you have already slept with the girl you are dating she may be very hurt if you decide to date the other woman.
I too have recently moved to a new city and I can vouch for the fact that getting all your business in order when you first move, getting utilities turned on, change of address, changing banks, unpacking, learning your way around, etc is very time consuming and it would have been difficult for her to divide her time between getting things in order and getting things off the ground with you.
It sounds to me like you should get to know both of these girls and see which one would be the best choice for your life. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.
Christchild
2006-11-21 17:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christchild2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
29, eh? Doesn't sound to me like you are ready for a serious relationship. First of all, you have never even met this 'hot girl' so basically what you're saying about her is just so much 'hot air'. Secondly, you have only been going out with the new girl for 3 weeks so it is hardly decision-time, is it?
You are in too much of a rush to settle down with someone - anyone, by the sound of it - and that suggests tht you shoud wait another ... ooooh ...20 years? And the 'hot girl' is just stringing you along - sounds like maybe something she had going elsewhere hasn't worked out and she is back on the market. How about suggesting you actually meet? Se what she says then. Good luck anyway with whatever you do.
2006-11-21 16:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know.
would you have a woman that you have seen and well kinda just met? or would you have a woman that you talk with on the computer and YOU say is cute?
for me, i would probably go with the gf you have now because she is well, THERE. and you only know the other girl from the computer. which is moving NEAR you but may not be who you were excpecting. though it seems you know the onloine girl more than the gf you have now so if you put it like that than maybe consider the online girl.
but really, which would you think will make you happy and will probably be with you for like.....ever?
2006-11-21 16:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cornelia Anabelle Banana Bo Peep 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she lied and shes not the "hot girl" in the pics she prolly looks uglier in real life. and it's been 3 months so maybe she found someone else cuz a lot can happen in 3 months.........i say choose the girl u are being with now because she is the real thing, you actually met her in person. The other girl u haven't met so she could be different in person than on the phone.
2006-11-21 17:14:17 · answer #5 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess i would ask myself this ?. do i want someone i have had actual contact with (talking in person, ate with) or do i want someone i have just seen in pics and talked on the phone with? i guess i would take the real deal. you would never know what if you give up the now gf and go for the computer mama and it doesnt work out. what if she is totally not what you wanted,and she is controlling and just a whacked out woman? and the other real one was your long awaited relationship? you'd be screwed. i guess what im saying is take the real deal at least you know what to expect but again its your life:)
2006-11-21 16:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the answer is in you..choose the person that love you and the sacrifice they had made for you even if it is not a big deal.. btw,the hot grl seems to be busy with her stuff and starting to build a life herself...im not sure if you guys ready for longterm
relationship
2006-11-21 17:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur instinct...that hot girl..didnt seem to mind that u were out of contact for a while...and how about that poor girl that u are dating right now...ahhh, this is a crazy dating world... if i were u, i will tell the other girl what's going on...and be by yourself for a while...or join my newly formed club..it's called GGAD, guys and girls against dating.....think about it...u will be free of those confusion and heartache...but who can replace the warmth of love....
2006-11-21 16:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust. Believe me...you'll be thinking about the old girl when you're with the new girl. It's your fault that you lost her e-mail address not hers.
I'll tell you one thing...if the old girlfriend moves 150 miles to be with you and you don't ACCEPT that....you'll have two girls ready to beat your butt!
To me the one that's ready to move to be with you is the BEST move!
Go for it and good luck!
2006-11-21 16:44:42 · answer #9 · answered by BadBill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh... stable old jealousy. it relatively is definitely a stable sign if we females act that way in a relationship, it skill we care approximately you plenty no different chick may even look at you, not to point climb into your mattress. yet no i've got suggested that, it does look kinda drastic, possibly we ought to consistently kinda tone it down somewhat.....
2016-10-22 12:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋