So here is my dilema.... my ex girlfriend broke my heart not once but twice over two years of dating. Cheated on me, lied to me, etc., really bad stuff.
Anyways... now i have a new girlfriend the nicest, caring, loving girl in the whole wide world and i couldnt picture myself without her. However, on a daily basis i am having dreams with my ex girl friend either we are together or apart or we see each other or we get into a fight, then i wake up and thank god i am no longer with her.
Can someone please suggest something i can do to stop thinking or dreaming about this?
2006-11-21 16:28:49 · 14 answers · asked by pele3844 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've had similar experiences, recently I've been dreaming about a number of my ex's a lot, not sure why.
Anyway, aside from therapy, you could always try going to sleep fantasizing about your current girlfriend doing things you both enjoy.
Or you could use any other fantasy, particularly if you try to include your current girlfriend.
For some reason this worked really well for me for a long time, it also improved my bond with the person I was with. And provided a number of interesting ideas to, er, spice up our sex lives.
If you also have problems thinking about her during the day, try to replace her with thoughts of your current girlfriend.
And have you heard of controlled dreaming? Basically, each morning you write down your dreams (don't let your girlfriend see this!) in order to remember them. Eventually you develop an ability to actually guide things in your dreams. I was very skeptical about it, but tried it in order to stop nightmares I was having in my teens.
Much to my shock - it worked more or less... I could stop or redirect my nightmares. Haven't done it in years, suppose I should give it a try again.
On the other hand, if you were seriously emotionally hurt by your ex, you may be suffering from some emotional abuse issues, in which case it will either take time, therapy, or both...
Good luck!
-dh
2006-11-21 16:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 04:42:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are falling asleep, give your brain a path of thought to follow.. Begin guiding it in the direction you'd like it to go. Think about things/places/people/situations that fill you with joy - almost meditation - and what you start, hopefully your dreams can continue.
Best of luck making the evil one disappear!
PS. Maybe your brain is spitting out it's last sensations/feelings of your ex... it's just taking out the trash.. Definitely doesn't mean you should go running back into her lying, cheating arms!
2006-11-21 16:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by seaofcolour 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that when I wasn't resolved about my past, then I couldn't go forward. Maybe you just need to find a way to say goodbye. For me it was burning pictures. I also had a chance to say a true goodbye to one of my ex's. Once I said that final goodbye, then my dreams were no longer filled with the past.
2006-11-21 16:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control what you dream so therefore you will just have to not pay attention to the dreams you are having. They don't mean nothing to you if you have found the girl you love don't let the dreams interfere with the good relationship.
2006-11-21 16:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by *be_23* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In psycology we have dreams to sort out problems we have that we rather not think about concisouly. To relieve us of probems we rather not deal with. So when you dreaming of her, it i because in your subcounsious your sorting out the knots that may ave formed of the time you dated.
Plus if it was recent that the break up happened then it maybe the reason why your having them.
2006-11-21 16:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spirita explains your dreams
Visit http://spirita.blogspot.com/ and post your question as a comment. You'll get your FREE dream interpretation (as a comment, too) shortly. Just remember where you posted your question, your dream interpretation will be under the same section.
2006-11-22 01:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by Spirita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll never forget someone you loved. Never. It's something you are subconciously thinking. Perhaps you are thinking how grateful you are to be in love with someone who loves you back in the way that she does and that brings you to remember the person who did not treat you right. But I don't think there's much you can do about it.
2006-11-21 16:32:01 · answer #8 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up as a bad dream. We all have them. Those dreams will subside. You'll get over it and then you'll start dreaming about your new fling. Those will be good dreams!
Good nights are yet to come...be patient...
2006-11-21 16:35:03 · answer #9 · answered by BadBill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have such a good thing going right now so your anxiety from the past is manifesting in your dreams. learn to trust her fully and more so, learn to trust yourself to know you can handle and heal if someone betrays your trust
2006-11-21 16:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋