Girls, what would you think if a guy said this to you?

Question

Here's the thing, i like this girl at my college. We know each other very well and i recently just told her how i feel about her. The thing is i did not feel any positive vibe on her part. I want us to be more than friends but im sensing she does not feel the same way.

I plan on tell her this:

'Well, however it works out, i hope you realize that you deserve somebody great.'

Girls i want to know what your reaction would be and if you would really consider thinking twice about that person.

Answer 1

if the feelings arent there then u really cant force it, but that is a very nice thing to say to someone. she may change her mind once she sees that you just want her to be happy in general

Answer 2

Well man my advice to you is to ask her out on a date, say old-fashioned dinner and a movie, not to much trouble and not to off the wall for a first date, then just be you and take her serious treat her like she is your new girlfriend and she might like the idea afterall it worked for me i had the same thing i liked this girl but we were best friends so it was weird at first but if your both mature enough to handle the difference between friendship and relationship than you'll be good together it really has to do with getting used to being together instead of hangin out as friends or just like buddies, just be a gentleman, open doors for her, pay for dinner, walk her to the door when the dates over, most of all respect her wishes, whether they be what you consider to be good or bad, even if it doesn't work out you'll always hav a friend if you are respectful and mature about the situation. And trust me friends that are good ppl are hard to come by. Girls are a dime a dozen so just look at the whole picture and try to keep it comfortable for the both of you be the man and let her be your girl and everything will work out just fine or at least it'll work out as it should with no unexpected or created obstacles between you two good luck. (btw me and that girl r still goin out and it is the best becuz we are so close and personal instead of just having the gf bf thing we are each others best friend.)

Answer 3

considering that line alone, i would love it if someone said that to me.

however, considering the line in context-- you told her you liked her, and she didn't really respond positively. i think what you need to do right now is back off, not push it. not that this line is pushing it, explicitly, but it's kind of addressing the issue again, and I think you need to NOT address it, and just talk about other things, and she will think about it, and if she decides in favor of you, she will on her own time. she already knows how you feel, you don't need to say anything more. maybe in a little while you can ask again or bring it up in some other way.

this is just based on what i would feel if this happened to me.

it's also worth noting that a couple of times people have "told me how they felt" and I responded negatively, or not negatively but with less than what I felt, because it was just surprising or I didn't know exactly yet what I thought and it seemed better to err on the side of less, so i would have more room to think. now i don't do that if I can help it (because you can lose some opportunities that way, some people never ask again)

Answer 4

Well if I didn't like him but then he told me that stuff then I would b happy but if I didn't like him before he said all that stuff and I don't like him after he says that stuff then I would just tell him in a very polite way that "I m so sorry but I don't really think I have the same feelings towards u that u have for me but maybe my feelings can change in the future." and if I did like him after he said that stuff then u probably know what would happen I would go out with him. Well HOPE I HELPED!! & GOOD LUCK!!! Sorry So Long!

Answer 5

Just so you know, I am not a girl, but if I ever said that I would shoot myself in the foot as it would be less painful. You have already told her how you feel. Let her make the next move and if she doesn't or isn't interested, just say that its ok, you don't waant your friendship to suffer because of how you feel. Be a better friend because of it and maybe one day she might come round. I would also suggest you find another girl, just so she knows that its ok with you just to be friends.

Answer 6

she sounds like she already has her mind made but if you guys stay friends she may realize in time that you do care about her and you will be there for her no matter what and decide to start a relationship wit you!!

But wish you the best cuz she is really lucky to have some one that wants her to be as happy as you do shoot you should give me a holla if she turns you down!! :) lol

Answer 7

Punk! Don't be fooled! Don't let some of these females trick you into being a puppy. Girls that reply "awww" to your situation are the ones that will never date you because they are the ones that would only see you as their "friend." Be assertive, not aggressive. Just be honest with her by telling what you really feel about her.

Answer 8

geeez i guess that didnt really work out good for u but i think if i didn't like a guy and he told me he did..i would back away from him. If u dont think she wants to be more than just friends then just keep it as it is NOW...or else u might scare her away and end up not talking to each other.
thats just what i think..hope this helps =)

Answer 9

I'm a guy and what you are going to say is so gay!! In your plan to speak with her I would say something nice and sweet but but not so gay. I hope that this doesn't across negative but you really need to rethink what you are planning on saying. Just my opnion, but good luck hey!

Answer 10

Well if i really did not thing that we could make a go of it i would tell him in a nice way and than i would tell him that we could be friends if he would like that.