Ok I've been talking to this girl who I helped through a very bad relationship. I started to have feelings for her and i dont know if she does for me. threw out her whole ordeal i helped wit the guys perspective on things giving her info like how some guys can fall out of love,and such. But anyway the other nite ,fri, she broke up wit him. i think she might still have fellings for him cause she keeps talking about how he has two things of hers and she cant never get back , i think its her heart and "V", so last nite i asked her for adivce. i said "So theres this girl i been talking to and dont know how to tell her i think i love her" "she recentaly got out of a bad relationship , like you and she has been very upset ." aquared silence then she replies i personally think it might be to early to tell her. PLEASE HELP I AM A STUPID GUY FOR CRYING OUT LOUD
2006-11-21 16:16:22 · 27 answers · asked by D F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, dont ever feel stupid for something that innocent.
You were also smart enough to detect the potential "overshare" so, no not stupid.
However, she probabbly has a pretty good idea who the mystery girl is if she did'nt ask you who it was. My advise...
dont bring it up again. If she also doesnt bring it up, consider it "better left alone"... if she does bring it up... read the body language and tone of her words, does she really want to know the answer or is she just trying to follow up and be a good friend to you. Careful cause people are constantly asking questions they really arent prepared to hear the truthful answer to. And are you sure you're in love or are you a born rescuer, with a soft spot for the damsel in distress???
2006-11-21 16:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something kinda like what you are going through. My advice would be that you need to learn to love yourself and accept yourself and then other girls will see that in you. This girl that came up and talked to you probably see's that there is more to you than meets the eye but she doesn't know how to approach you. Learn to love yourself. I have been watching this movie called "The Secret" you should look into it. It has really changed my perspective on things. I wish you all the luck and that I helped at least a little bit.
2016-03-29 05:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious she's not stupid! Do you honestly think she wouldn't know you were talking about her? Us ladies know pal. Don't get to worked up, she didn't blow you off. It is to soon for her to reach out for you. You shouldn't want her to anyway. She needs time to heal from this broken heart before getting involved with someone else. Besided you don't want to be the "Transitional Guy" do you? Believe me there is such a thing. Give her time. Be her friend. Talk to her about what you said. Do not put it off. She needs to know that you sre still here for her and that you will wait until she has time to heal. Good Luck:)
2006-11-21 16:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by stuffy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you've said what you shouldn't have said...back off a little. Give her time. Luckily for you she has already pointed out how you feel but now act like nothing happened and in time she will reduce thinking about it. There's no real harm done but you have to be sure she's not suspicious of your helping her sort out a relationship. Continue to support her, be there for her but cool off the intensity and remember, you might be her rebound relationship so pursue someone else instead of her.
2006-11-21 16:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not stupid...Just Over eadger...... Give her some time.... She will mourn this relationship with her ex for awhile.... Build her up and help her, but also help your self..... let her see your good qualities, and let her see what a good guy you can be, and a good catch..... But do not put all your apples in one basket...... Look around a little....When a guy finds a girl, the one he likes usually looks at what she is missing out on, and tries to move in..... But to not sell yourself short...She may get back together with the ex.... So I would look for love in another direction and do what is right for yourself....Dont wait around on her too long....
2006-11-21 16:24:58 · answer #5 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she just got out of a bad relationship! Chill!
Eventhough you seem like a sweet guy, I suggest that you shouldnt pursue this. She barely broke up with the guy and he totally screwed her over. She probably hates guys by now. But let her have her time. She probably isnt thinking about new relationships right now. Let her breathe, let her have some space :)
Best Wishes!
Peace
2006-11-21 16:22:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was definitely too early, but we all learn from our mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it! Just continue to be her friend. You could even apologize to her if it would make you feel more comfortable. Let her know that you still want the friendship, and she will come around. Remember to listen to her feelings, and try to put your romantic feelings aside for the time being. Good luck!
2006-11-21 16:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by tatesgr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to her advice. It's too early to tell her. Give her some space already! You already know what to do. Of course she still has feelings for him. give her time and when she compeltely stops talking about him, it's your turn. But be careful, are you sure you want to risk losing her friendship if it doesn't work out between you? Make sure you have looked at this from all angles before you leap into it.
2006-11-21 16:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no you did not goof. This is how my boyfriend and I got together. He helped me realize that I was not happy with my ex, so I broke up with the ex. Now we talked alot on the phone and formed a bond that way. So my advice, just take it slow and keep communicating with her, you never know what will happen. Best of luck to ya!!!! :)
2006-11-21 16:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by princess_heather43787 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...do you think that she knows that you are talking about her? if she knows then she is not ready for love again i mean she JUST got out of a bad relationship and if she doesn't know then maybe sghe said it was too early cuz she really likes you and doesn't want you to love another girl but if that is not the case then it is too early because it is her opinion and if she thinks that then that is where it lays...
good luck i hope things work out!
2006-11-21 16:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋