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I started liking a boy not too long ago. He flirted and texted me everyday. Out of nowhere he said he just wanted to be friends. Then he told me that he missed his ex-girlfriend and that he may be getting back with her. Ever since then he hasn't talked to me outside of work at all, even when i try to send him a messgae.

Frankly, I'm hurt and it has done a number on my self esteem. What's the best way to get over this boy, especially since i work with him?

2006-11-21 16:15:34 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Ouch! Remind yourself that what you're missing isn't him (the guy who flirted with you, then cut you off to the point of not talking to you), but what might have happened (if it had worked out, if he wasn't a jerk), and the fun of flirting with someone who flirts back.

How you get over it is you get out there, take classes, volunteer, meet new people, and fill up your life to the point where the hole he left is filled up with New Life and New Friends. When you see him at work, you smile, 'cause hey, it was fun flirting with him, way back when. Good luck!

2006-11-21 16:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1 0

It always hurts when something like this happens. Be gentle to yourself. Even great people have relationships that don't work sometimes. Try to spend time with friends and pamper yourself a bit. You might also try to do things that have interested you in the past. When you're interested in something else, then you won't be thinking of him as much. Remember that your self worth is not affected by what someone else thinks of you. It sounds corny, but maybe you might want to privately write a list of all your best traits and things that you have done. It might help you gain perspective when you feell down.

Maybe you might want to cool it a bit on trying to get in contact with him outside of work too (I'm not criticizing though, it's very understandable that you would want to do it). The less you see of him, the better for the next while I would think. Good luck! I hope everything goes well for you!

2006-11-21 16:22:41 · answer #2 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0 0

Something similar like this happened to me too. Try doing things that have nothing to do with this boy. But if you feel like you need to talk about this, talk to a friend and let it all out. Focusing on other guys can help too. But from what i've learned, you just need time to get over a guy. Gradually, your feelings wont be as strong, which will eventually lead to getting over him. Also, don't be ashamed or anything to cry if you need to, because trust me, it helps. Hope everything works out for you!

2006-11-21 16:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by Liz 2 · 0 0

The best way is to get over him, and I know its easier said than done, but think about it, you wouldn't want to be with someone who instead of thinking of you is thinking of his "ex-", you need to find someone worth your time and efforts girl. Go out and mingle, being single and looking isn't that bad and most of the times its an adventure, were you might meet someone or make really good friends. Don't let him do anything to your self-esteem, because that's how you think about you, and he doesn't have to live with you forever, YOU DO. So cheer up, because sometimes having someone isn't all its cracked up to be ;)
best advice spoil and love yourself not some guy, because you can't love someone without loving yourself first!

2006-11-21 16:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by eightynine 1 · 0 0

The best thing for you to do is to not hang around him. Don't think about him or talk about him. All these things will get you thinking about him and you will never be able to get over him. Don't let it bother your self esteem because he isn't really worth it if he has put you through some trouble.

2006-11-21 16:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by *be_23* 3 · 0 0

Put him out of your life in every way possible. Don't txt him, delete his txts, don't call him, don't accept his calls. Avoid him outside of work -- though it sounds like that won't be a problem.

Find something else to focus on, but maybe not a new boyfriend. You wouldn't want to use some guy just to get over a crush. We have enough broken men out there.

Oh yeah, and lots and lots of chocolate.. I find that works. :)

2006-11-21 16:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by starryeyedhaze 3 · 0 0

why on earth would you let this affect your self esteem..? it's not about you, it's about him. he's not interested in you now, so what? ever thought maybe you can do better? don't think men are the end all honey because they are anything but LOL your self worth should never be measured by your relationship with any man at any period of your life..and trust me, there are few and far between who are worth all the fuss lol

2006-11-21 16:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0 0

Okay. Tis hard too but you will. Go eat ice cream, sit around the TV and watch good old fashioned holiday movies! Its worked so many times for me!

2006-11-21 16:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 1 · 0 0

just forget about him girl! seriously, if he doesnt want to be with you then forget him!! its not worth your time. there are WAY more guys out there than just him and if hes all whipped over his ex then you dont want that getting in the way of a relationship, do you?

2006-11-21 16:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by claire annette 2 · 0 0

find a new guy and make the old boy see you with the new guy (just for the whole working together thing)

2006-11-21 16:19:46 · answer #10 · answered by lula gula 2 · 0 0

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