The boy is my one of my closest friend's older brother. He is a decent guy. I know him but i guess he is kinda in the friend catagory. My friend told me he likes me. I am unsure if i feel the same. But no matter what i can't do anything because of my sister. She does not like the idea of me going out with anyone...not that i want to...she has high standards. I don't want to give him any hope but I have had crushes before and it never went well. Because of this I feel guilty and want to give him hope. And my friend, his sister, jokes about it but hits that she likes and dislikes the idea of him liking me. It's complicated. I need help or advice.
2006-11-21 16:13:27 · 17 answers · asked by Chi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, dont let your sister decide Your love life!
If he is a decent guy and you dont feel the same way, try not to lead him on into thinking you guys could be together. Make it clear that you see him ONLY as a friend, and you would like it to stay that way. But if you are interested in him, then I guess you just have to think if its possible for you guys to connect. Dont let anyone manipulate your ideas about who you like or dont like. My sister used to criticize my choices of guys, which made me insecure, which made me dump some really great guys. Think for you and you only.
Good luck!
Peace
2006-11-21 16:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, learn to take your own decisions. Your sister's high standards has nothing to do with your choice of bfs. Create a barrier now and even if she is angry or tells you off, tell her that she should know that you will approach her whenever you need an advice but she should let yourself decide where lies your happiness and not interfere. Give her the cold treatment and do not try to argue over it. It may take some time but it is better done now and get over with it. It can become a big problem later.
Similarly, what your friend's sister thinks of his brother's choice of you as a gf do not matter too. It only matters what you want and whether you want to be with that guy. If you don't like him much, simply tell your friend and his sister in a serious and firm tone to quit joking about him for you don't want anybody to feel hurt because of you. But you do not share his feelings and hearing about what he thinks about you is uncomfortable for you. If they do not do that, act formal with them until they understand your point.
If you do want to give him a chance, talk to him. Tell him that you want to be his friend and that you want to share a few secrets with him. Tell him that you have heard from your friend about his feelings and you do not know whether you share his feelings or not. You thought it better to be a friend because of all the confusion in your mind. Tell him that you want to befriend him but since you are not sure of what are your feelings, you are afraid of hurting him. Leave it to him to decide how he handles the situation. This will help you to gauge his maturity too.
2006-11-21 16:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know up front that you do not feel an attraction towards him the way he may have for you.... do not lead him on to believe there is hope for the two of you to become a couple.... And Do Not cut him down.... Build him up, in a way a friend would...... let him know you like him as a friend...... Do not mention any of his faults..... because that will just discourage him in the future with looking for another girl..... best of Luck
2006-11-21 16:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the final element to do is be frank with the boy! tell him of course what he and additionally you're and the style you experience approximately him. he gets the message, optimistically, oh, and doubtless you ought to decrease him out of your existence for jointly as, or perpetually in case you do no longer prefer to be his chum. Giving him some area and time will set the boy promptly (:
2016-10-17 09:09:52 · answer #4 · answered by dopico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont say anything about it to the guy that likes u or anyone else. If he comes to u, let him kno gently. Dont be an azz bout it or it could come bak to bite u on the azz. Dont let a past relationship stop u from bein satisfied with someone thats good for u.
2006-11-21 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by Just Ask 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not agree to go out with him for a bit just to show him how un-interested you really are. I know that if you brush him off now, he will still beleive that there could have been something great between the 2 of you. You need to bore him to death so he stops liking you.
2006-11-21 16:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to be sure with you feelings first before you decide anything. and regarding your sister its your life so you are the one who decide your future. and its ok to be unsure with your feelings but its better if you not give any hope to the guy if you dont have feelings towards him
2006-11-21 16:26:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asks you out, and you don't want to date him. Just.. tell him the truth and say that you don't like him that way. He will be crushed, but at least you're not leading him on only to dump him later. Also, tell your friend that you don't like him that way... maybe you'll curb any attempts of asking you out before it happens.
Best of luck!
2006-11-21 16:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by starryeyedhaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister isnt you. You should make your own choices, but keep her words of wisdom in mind. If he asks you out you should go, you might like him more than you think, just take other friends along, so he wont think its a "real" date. Be Safe!
2006-11-21 16:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by noOne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, quickly and gently.
The sooner you let him know the easier it is on both of you. There comes a point where you have a certain responsibility to get him on the same page as you. (as uncomfortable as it can be)
2006-11-21 16:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋