my family are far too much manz.. i am not allow to stay over night at anywhere. Not even my fren place or my bf house. I am not allow to go out late.. therefore they restricted me to be back home before 12mid nite!! I feel so controlled.. and the worst and laughter part.. i am 20 years old this year!! and i am being controlled in this extent.. godness holly... help me!!
2006-11-21 16:13:22 · 29 answers · asked by Its me! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
restriction is the best thing for you for the time being. respect what your parents are asking of you and be a good roll model to those younger than yourself. Just because you are 20 doesn't necessarily mean you are mature enough to take on such tasks
2006-11-21 16:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by ~brigit~ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should learn to appreciate what you DO have.
Your 20 and your still living in your parents house, by now, you should have moved out. If you are not paying rent then you have nothing to complain about. Your family is probably just trying to protect you. Have you tried talking to them CALMLY and RATIONALLY about how you feel?
As for staying at your bf's house (im assuming you mean boyfriend), do you feel that you are MATURE enough to handle yourself?
And while your able to stay out until midnight, with the intention of wanting to stay at your boyfriends house, some people with GOOD intentions, do not have that privelage.
So I think that in your spare time that you are not working to pay rent for the home you live in, you should go down to your community preschool and learn how to spell simple words like niGHt and frIend and allowED. I think your parents are very smart in keeping control of you, if you can't spell simple words and get the IS and ARE right you obviously need to spend more time in school and arent smart enough to make these decisions for yourself.
2006-11-24 00:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Divegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but as long as you are living at home, it's very difficult to convince your parents that you are 'grown up' now. When you say you are not 'allowed' to stay overnight anywhere, who is preventing you? Instead of asking, why not 'tell' your parents that you are going to stay over at a girlfriend's house. If they won't loosen up to that extent, you've got a real problem on your hands.
Are you still at school? Are you working? Could you afford to take a trip with a girlfriend? How about the two of you going away for a weekend -- find a conference, or a special event, or go to Disneyland. But make it easy for them to accept by going with a girlfriend.
Sooner or later you're going to have to make a stand, and good luck to you when that happens.
2006-11-22 00:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
And you have not saved enough to move out ALREADY on your own at 20 years of age????
Gosh, 20 years old -- say, what happened to your education -- did you complete High School yet? I ask this question because this posting is VERY difficult to read, even harder to understand, and ... most importantly --
YOU ARE ALREADY OVER the AGE where you are LEGALLY recognized as an ADULT!
SO ...
TAKE on those ADULT RESPONSIBILITIES by working a job, moving out, and paying for your home, utilities, food, clothing, and everything else you need solely out of YOUR OWN INCOME!
2006-11-22 02:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be respectful of your families home. You are an adult now but that doesn't give you the right to be disrespectful. If you want the freedom then you should find a roomate. Your family obviously cares for you and are creating boundaries in their home. You will appreciate / understand when you become a parent.
2006-11-22 00:29:36 · answer #5 · answered by researchqueen 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Move to college dorms if possible... Get a job and pay for rent of an apartment, whatever you have to do to get out of their control if you really feel restrained... Yea, telling a 20 year old that is being a bit condesending...
2006-11-22 00:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Zach S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are of age to handle your life. parents believe as long as their child is living under their roof, they have the right to make rules....i am sure they will be happy for you to get a job..so get a job, save some money and move out into your own place.,..it could be your own place or share it with a couple friends... once you are supporting yourself and out of the home, they can not control you anymore...
2006-11-22 00:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's great that your parents care about you and there are a lot of 20 year olds reported missing and later found dead, which is probaly their concerns it's a sad world we live in, but I can also understand your side of things...and you want your independence....I hope you can talk it over with them and meet some where in the middle...
2006-11-22 00:18:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lanie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get a job and get your own place. They can't control you if you are not living with them. If you try to rebel they may kick you out anyway. Your parents shouldn't be doing this, but the only smart thing to do is move out.
2006-11-22 00:17:21 · answer #9 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah that is quite restricting, they are hampering your growth in many ways. The boyfriend thing however...overnight? I don't know...why other than for obvious reasons. If you want to do adult things you should be an adult and adults don't depend on their parents, get your own place
2006-11-22 00:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋