engagement ring minimum?

Question

what do you think should be spent on an engagement ring? i know i know, "you cant put a price on love", blah , blah, blah........
I've heard mention of th eequivalent of 3 months salary. I just got one that cost what my guy makes in less than a week! And he spends more on drugs and booze and smokes in a month than he did on me!! Double!!! anyone have any good thoughts?

Answer 1

uh yeah. if the guy spends more on drugs and booze and smokes than he does on you then you need to loose him and move on. Drop the loser.

Answer 2

Okay darlin' and I dont mean to be rude but it's not the price of the ring. That isnt the big issue here... you are in for a lifetime of misery marrying into a drug addiction. Forget about how much the ring costs cause if you ever take it off and set it down, he'll sell it to buy drugs when he loses his job due to drug use.
You are nowhere near ready to marry this man, he needs help, and you need to attend a Narcotics annonomous or Alanon meeting, also go visit a womans shelter that's where so many wives go to escape their drugged out dangerous spouces and get some real insight into your future lifestyle, it'll be like a crystal ball, get a good look before you say I do. And then ask yourself, do I really love him and all that he entails or do I just love the idea of love and marriage, and do I deserve better than this? If you dont head the warning of all of these postings and you decide to bring kids into the world with him, consider your troubles doubled, and trippled for each life you subject to the drug addict. Even if he's a nice person, that's not going to save you from the dark side of drugs. Good luck...

Answer 3

Did you read what you wrote?
Now smoking pot is illegal and he shouldn't be spending money on that, but the other habits are legal.
Lets do a breakdown, if he only smokes one pack of smokes a day that is $3.00 minimum times 30 days. What does that equal?
Booze, how much on a daily basis does his booze cost? multiply by 30.
Now smoking isn't all that bad. But if he is drinking that much, why do you want to be with him.
Get him some help with his addictions, then think about marriage. It's not like you are getting married next month. Maybe he is saving money for a bigger and better ring, but when he say this one, he just had to buy it for you.
To complain is childish, but if you are complaining about his lifestyle, think about why you love him, why do you stay? If you didn't know how much the ring cost, would you have posted this question. If you didn't know how much the ring cost, would you be disappointed with the ring??????????

If you have the same addictions he does, and I am not saying that you do, but if you do, get yourself some help and him.

Answer 4

I think a nice engagement ring can be gotten for several hundred dollars. The business about it being the equivalent of two months' salary is malarkey - a pure advertising/marketing thing by the jewellery companies.
My good thought is that it's not the size of the ring that counts. A mature person would realize the symbolism.
Why are you marrying a druggie and a boozer, anyway?

Answer 5

If your man will buy you a ring that costs less than what he spends on drugs and booze in a week...hell, in a year...why would you be with him?
If he was a hard worker and wasn't a drunk/druggie, I would say you are being selfish about the price he paid.
But since you made it sound like he is, I just think you are nuts for sticking around at all. Let alone accepting an engagement ring from him.

Answer 6

I think you should stop worrying about the engagement ring and start wondering if you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who spends more on drink/drugs etc. instead of you. Plus it sounds like he's a real loser and do you really want to wake up beside this man for the rest of your life, have children with him and generally bear all his smoking, drinking and drug lifestyle? Is he really the only one for you?! I'm sure that you deserve much better so go out there and find Mr. Right, don't end up with Mr. Right Now.

Answer 7

If your guy spends more money on booze and smokes than he did on your engagement ring...chances are that isn't a good relationship and you need to find a way out. (Not to mention drugs are illegal and could cost you any job if he gets caught).

Answer 8

My concern is not what he spent on your ring, but the fact that he spends more on drugs, booze and smokes in a month than he did on your ring. He sounds like he's got some addiction issues going, and marriage to this guy is a one-way ticket to hell, in my honest opinion. Do yourself a favor, don't go there. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

Why should it really matter how much a silly piece of jewelry cost? My husband and I have been married for almost 7 years, and he just bought me my first piece of jewelry. When we were originally married, I picked out our wedding bands and a simple engagement ring since he was away in the Army. The cost never made much difference it's the thing they represent. We are married today because of the fact that we get along and have the same interests, not because of the cost of my engagement ring.

Answer 10

Your sentimentality overwhelms me. At least he gave you a ring. I've heard two months salary and I've heard three months salary. The truth is it should be whatever the couple can afford because odds are payments will be involved which will impact on discretionary income for quite some time. If you don't like what you got, or think it was too cheap, then don't marry him.

Answer 11

why are you getting involved with someone who loves his drugs, booze and smokes more than you? you need to decide right now as to how your life will be in say 6 months after marriage..

no one has to have an expensive engagement ring..its the thought, not the size..most people just want to flaunt what they have and its not the meaning behind it..well, good luck..