I broke up with my ex in July. It wasnt the best relationship and recently for some reason I have been able to remember the good parts. It makes me sad and it hurts. I have dreams about him and constantly check the phone and IM. For a few months there I was just fine remembering him as an asshole. Now with all this turning up a part of me wants to get back with him even though I know its wrong. I know this is all cliche but Im really confused right now and any good advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
2006-11-21 16:04:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go find some 1 else
2006-11-21 16:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who have been in relationships know how you are feeling. I went through the same thing. A year ago on Dec 4. I left my boyfriend. We were living together and everything wasn't perfect, but we were trying. Long story short, I grabbed all my stuff and moved back to my parents' house. I found out that he was an addict and a multitude of other things that he thought weren't worth mentioning. I was angry and upset...then I was relieved...fogot about him for a while...and then started to miss him. I still miss him till this day, but I know that I would be wayyyy happier without him than with him. Check out that site below maybe some of that information can be more helpful.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/coping_divorce_relationship_breakup.htm
2006-11-21 16:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Icky B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, what that is is you yourself getting over the breakup--BOTH parties have to get over it, even the one doing the breaking up. Now that you've had some distance from the problems, you're starting to remember the good times. That's actually a GOOD thing. But naturally, that's going to make you get back together with him. Now, stopping this is easier said than done, but every time you think something good about him, you've got to remember again why you broke up with him. What he did that was so @ssholish. After a while, you'll be able to remember the good with the bad, and realize that while the relationship had its good points, it simply wasn't meant to be. Whatever you do, don't go back to him. I was in your same exact position once, but I DID go back to the guy and it just ended worse than ever, with severe, severe heartache. So be careful and good luck!:)
2006-11-21 16:11:10 · answer #3 · answered by Casey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only remembering the good times now because you've suddenly realised that you're single and lonely. You had a comforting relationship with him so you automatically want to go back to that when you're feeling bummed out.
Now's your opportunity to find someone else who gives you that same comfort and you can be HAPPY with. You broke up for a reason. Just keep reminding yourself of those reasons, even if he tries contacting you and tempting you to get back together. You've already been there and done that. Try something new. ;)
2006-11-21 16:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to face the fact that getting over someone is really hard. Sometimes most people get over someone when someone arrives. Get busy thats my advise to you. Think less of him.
2006-11-21 16:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by trumanhacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its part of the process, try to be more objective
2006-11-21 16:08:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS NORMAL TO FEEL AS YOU DO. REGARDLESS OF HOW
IT ENDED.. BUT SINCE BOTH OF YOU HAVE MOVE ON. TIME
TO LET THE PAST STAY THERE. START TO MOVE FORWARD OF COURSE IT WILL TAKE TIME.BUT IT WILL
GET BETTER AS TIME GO ON.
2006-11-21 16:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buyer's remorse? LOL
2006-11-21 16:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋