my parents are having problems but this is not new in fact it's very annoying now. my mom wants to go ride her harley on thanksgiving and do her own thing and my dad doesn't even care anymore. my boyfriend has work and told me it isn't a big deal either and that it was stupid of me to act like that. but i honestly think that thanksgiving is a time for family and food and without those 2 what is it? am i worng to be mad? isn't it a little wrong? also i don't have money to buy anything to make it which my dad told me i could have thanksgiving if i bought the food an everything. well thats all i had to say but i still think that it's worng. what do you think?
2006-11-21 16:04:39 · 6 answers · asked by spicysaucylatina 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
go chill with some of your friends, and the hell with the rest. if they dont feel the same, move on. when they get to looking for you, tell them you will make time for them like they made time for you. this is a special holiday for those u care most for.evn though u should all the time. ur a big girl now. so, go out and do your own thing. from me to u, HAVE A VERY BLESSED AND HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!!!!
2006-11-21 16:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by nina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can be thankful you aren't as screwed up as the other people in your life, for sure. So sorry you're going through this!
Looks like the other people in your life have one thing in common - they're self-absorbed. Much as you may love them, you do need to get out and find friends who will be supportive and accept you as you are - and honor your desire to love, and to express and receive love.
Thing is, you can't make someone else feel/say/do anything - so it's time to start meeting new people, and build a supportive "family of choice" of friends. How about spending Thanksgiving volunteering at a local charity (many soup kitchens serve the homeless), or planning to do that after Thanksgiving?
If that doesn't appeal, pick a charity that does something you think is important (libraries, zoos, animal welfare groups, the list is endless) and putting in some volunteer time? You'll meet people who are doing something positive about an issue you think is important (and you'll be one of them). Over time, you'll make friends, and that emotional support and feeling of being needed will help take some of the pain away.
The holidays can be hard for people who don't have that loving, supportive, Norman Rockwell family gathering at home (and lots just have family gatherings that would make your hair fall out), but you don't have to sit in a corner and mourn -- get out and find a life that brings you joy. Good luck!
2006-11-21 16:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sucks that you're in this situation, however you cannot force family harmony. Since you have no one to share thanksgiving with, might I suggest you find a local church/soup kitchen and volunteer to help serve those who are less fortunate on this day? Otherwise, like others have said, just chill with some friends, go see a movie and enjoy the 4 day weekend.
2006-11-21 17:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by Vince 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your heart is in the right place, and I'm sorry you don't have anyone to share Thanksgiving dinner with. Why don't you go to the supermarket and get a nice tv dinner (turkey and stuffing and potatoes and cranberries) and light a candle and say a prayer and give yourself a pat on the back for having the spirit of the holiday in your heart.
2006-11-21 16:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not being wrong, Thanksgiving is a time for family and friends to get together to spend quality time. I guess what u could do is goto one of your friend's houses or another family member's house to get the family feeling elsewhere.
2006-11-21 17:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to adulthood. Maybe your parents are tired of being the responsible ones (if they ever were, hard to say with the limited info we have). i'm sorry you are in this situation and I have been there too. But our parents sometimes cannot be what we want them to be and what they should be, and your'e realizing this is part of becoming an adult. I would say try to make yourself happy this holiday season and try not to judge your parents too harshly. Everyone out here is trying to do their best and sometimes we can't.
RE: Your boyfriend, he does not sound terribly sympathetic either. Try and surround yourself with friends that care about you. Otherwise the others that answered had some great suggestions. Good luck and remember to take good care of yourself.
2006-11-22 04:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋