my nephew is 7, and im 21. he was told a long time ago by his mom (my sister), that he didnt have to listen to me, even if i was telling him something for his own good. Like not running in the family room because he could fall into our brick fireplace and crack his head open. i try so hard to tell him to be careful, but he never listens. My sister finally told him he has to listen to me. Even after my sister told him he has to listen to me he still wont. i have my parents tell me a lot to "grow up and deal with it, you're 21, he's 7." any advice on how to make my nephew listen to me?
2006-11-21 15:56:53 · 17 answers · asked by Renee W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have an uphill battle. Your sister was wrong to ever tell him that he didn't have to listen to you. I think your sister is going to have to have a sit down with you and her son and get this straightened out. When you tell him to do something, say it in a firm, pleasant voice. If he won't listen, repeat it in a firm voice. After that, time out for 7 minutes. See what your sister suggests.
2006-11-21 16:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your sister his mother does not make her son mind the rules then how do you think you are going to make him listen. And your parent's could care less if the 7 year listens or not so stop caring. And when he gets hurt then everyone will know you are right.
2006-11-22 00:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but it sounds to me like your sister needs a good old fashioned butt whoopin'. Why on earth would she tell her son that he did not have to listen to you - especially if what you are telling him is something for his own health.
The only thing I can think of to advise you is to sit down with him and tell him that you love him and that the only reason you tell him certain things is because you don't want to see him get injured that it would break your heart to see him get hurt if it was something that could have been prevented just by simply listening to what his aunt who loves him very much advised him agains. Just tell him you're not trying to be bossy to him - you just love him and want the best for him.
In the mean time I would have a sit down with your sister and ask her why she would have ever advised her son not to mind someone who is his elder - an elder that loves him.
I repeat - I think your sister needs a good old fashioned butt whoopin - telling her kids not to mind an adult is how we end up with hateful behaving delinquents that end up in jail.. Shame on her.
2006-11-22 00:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by MissyChele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not make someone listen to you, no mater what age they are. I know you have his best interests in heart but if your sister undermined your authority with him for awhile it's going to take more than her telling him to get him to respect you and your greater wisdom. All you can do is tell him not to do run in the family room (or whatever) and if he still does let your sister punish him, or if she is ok you punish him. But check with your sister, she may not think your authority goes as far as punishing her child, so check with her, and ask what she considers is ok to punish him with.
2006-11-22 00:07:27 · answer #4 · answered by anjel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has not listened so far so why should he now? kids need boundaries and it sounds like he hasn't got many! disrespect is a bad trait to perpetuate. you parents are just trying to enforce the fact that they cant do anything about it. its your sisters kid. At the end of the day if there are no consequences when he disrespects you what is to stop him doing it again?
2006-11-22 00:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by charlotte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch him at a time when he is not running or playing up, and talk to him about it then. Look right at him, tell him how much he means to you and why you would not want anything to happen to him. Maybe a little reward for each time he takes notice?
You are great for caring.
2006-11-22 00:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by pip 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey this is Andre
I'll do exactly what Kim Wise just said
Thats the only way that a kid will listen to you
Do something that he never wants like spank him but dont ground him that never works okay..
Hope this helps a little bit.
2006-11-22 00:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by Andre Mare 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a place of your own. That way you wont have to deal with him or anybody again. You not being there will make everyonoe including the 7 year old appreciate you more. It will also make you appreciate them.
2006-11-22 00:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if this is your house he has to obey your rules.or just tell your sister/parents you are not watching him anymore.if you do not live on your on and dont like the way things are going,get out and get your own place.
2006-11-22 00:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well firstly you have to establish that you are her aunt. and that you have the authority. but it won't be easy. he is in the age that really is hard to discipline. but it's not yet too late. better get the whip ready. ;-)
2006-11-22 00:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋