ive been with my girlfriend 10 yrs. i have a boyfriend of 4 years. we were all friends till we decided to all live together as a couple. for those who don't know this is a polyamorous relationship. i sleep with them both but not together. now all the sudden, my man has an attitude about time with my girlfriend and she with me spending time with him and little jealousy spats occur. how do i get them both to get along and realize i love them both EQUALLY? my friends say that men are very possessive when it comes to women and sex and their territory BUT i don't always agree. these stupid little fights are getting on my nerves ! if anyone is in this relationship themselves can you give me advice? i know most people think this sort of relationship is odd but ITS NOT BASED ON SEX-- LIKE MOST PEOPLE WOULD LIKE TO THINK. HOW DO I DEAL--EDUCATED RESPONSES PLEASE?
2006-11-21 15:45:13 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your only option is to sit them both down and have a serious conversation. Tell them what you said here. Let them know what your time expectations are with each of them. Let them explain to you what exactly they want. Maybe when they sit down and really talk about it something will work out.
The truth is these things occur to some degree in all relationships. It's just magnified in yours. The only way to keep the peace is open communication and compromise.
Oh, and you will get a lot of stupid responses here. Take them with a grain of salt. Good luck.
2006-11-21 16:06:07 · answer #1 · answered by libra1079 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stupid fights happen all the time in any relationship. My partenr and I have been polyamorous for years and are currently in a tri with another women for a while now. What I can say to you is that with the relationships so open now under one roof you might need to rethink the nature of your relationships with eachother. Keep in mind that with three people you dont have two relationships you have 10 each to yoruselves each to eachother and teh individaul to teh duo and finally the whole. thinking that way sometiems helps. I think you need to remember rule numebr one with polyamorous relationships and that is to be effective communciators. Take some peoples suggestions here and have a sit down talk it out. xplore the tentions and problems with each relationship you are all involved with. I hope that helps.
2006-11-26 19:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by mysticlaughter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel that relationships shouldnt all be based on sex unfortunately sex is more important to some then others and more meaningfull
or not, its a complex issue but I think everyone should live the way they want to to make themselves and others happy be good to each other. Honesty is always the best policy.
2006-11-21 23:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by stacy x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is my educated response..
you need a shrink
2006-11-21 23:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋