My boyfriend is a bingeing alcoholic, When he drinks I do not want to be with him so I kick him out, What or were do I do with him when his own family does not want to take him in.
2006-11-21 15:40:24 · 14 answers · asked by dolptat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
change the lock when he's out. tell him straight u want out. or find another place to live without him knowing. just let go cos alcoholics can be very abusive. he's an adult he should be able to take care of himself. u look after yourself, gal.
2006-11-21 15:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by yoyo l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the Locks, file for a Restraining Order (Personal Protective Order), pack his things in a box -- go to the Police and ask that he be served with a Trespass Warrant at the place where he works or his family's home, and then ...
when he comes back again (and you know he will) CALL The POLICE -- give the police time to respond, do NOT open the door, and when the officer asks you "Do you want him Charged with Trespassing" SAY "YES!"
Then pass out the boxes of his things to him in front of the officer -- and ....
HAVE A GREAT LIFE withOUT the loser in your life!
2006-11-22 02:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthful and tell him how you feel. Tell him you don't want him there anymore and tell him he has to find a place of his own. If he's old enough to drink then he's old enough to be out on his own. You can't feel guilty if his family doesn't want him, they have their reasons. They also know him and know what he's like and if you don't want him around chances are they feel the same way. If he can do what he wants to then he can take responsibility for himself and live by himself, if he can stand it or he'll get help. Hopefully before it's too late.
2006-11-22 01:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by ANG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is his name on your lease? or your home? If not, then you can call the police. They will escort him out. Changing the locks is a good idea too but be careful is he's violent. If he gets violent with you, call the police and do not let him in your place. Being in a relationship with an alcoholic is a no-win situation. He has to want to get help. You can only help yourself, not him. He's an adult and it's up to him to help himself. To help yourself you can go to some ALANON groups and visit with people in your similar situation.
2006-11-22 13:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by LM S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others here, if he doesn't want to get help, and you've kicked him out then it's his problem not yours. Change the locks when he is out, and if necessary (and I know this will sound harsh) call the cops on him if he harasses you or stalks you. Drunks can be dangerous, so look after yourself, and let him look after himself.
2006-11-21 23:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by anjel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he isnt your responsibility..he needs to grow up and deal with what hes doing..when you kick him out, you need to change the locks, if possible, get a restraining order on him and if he comes back to you, call the police..that will be the only way for him to realize what hes doing to you and his family..dont give in to him either..be strong for yourself being..youll be happier..good luck..
2006-11-22 00:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by Nikkib 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you kicked him out it's not your problem where he goes. And if you kick him out don't let him back in. If he bothers you get a restraining order against him.
2006-11-22 00:57:29 · answer #7 · answered by Just Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a bulkier BF and get this alcoholic chap kicked out with his help.
2006-11-22 00:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is living with you ..By law, you can't just kick him out.....you will need to get a 30 day eviction notice...
2006-11-22 02:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if his family won't take him in,thats his problem.if you are unhappy,change the locks and ignore calls,whatever..if he won't leave you alone,you might have to get the police involved..but if you are sure hes not for you let him go sooner rather than later..dont be un happy for anybody.
2006-11-21 23:54:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋