my niece hits and bites my daughter i don't know what to do. it drives me crazy. sometimes i feel like slapping her, but she's not my kid and i wouldn't want to hit mine. so i just separate them. and she cries alot to. what should i do???
2006-11-21 15:36:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It sounds like she needs some serious boundries.. but your right, you should talk to her mother/father first, and see how they would like you to deal with it. If they wont deal with it, you need to remind them that it is your job to protect your child as well as theirs, and it cannot continue
2006-11-21 15:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old your niece or daughter were. Depending on how old they are would effect how you would want to handle this problem. But for starters, I would say that your niece should not be left alone with your daughter at any time. Where is her parents, and why aren't they disiplining their child. Sounds like you need to have a serious discussion with them about their daughters behavior. This kind of agressive behavior should be taken care of when they're little or it will get out of hand and escalate. If she is allowed to get away with this now, before long she'll be thinking she can hit and bite everyone.
2006-11-21 23:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend that you read the book:
Paperback: 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12
Author: Phelan, Thomas W.
This has worked very well for me in dealing with my own children, my nieces and nephews, and my girlfriends daughters.
I have personally bought this book for my 2 brothers and 1 sister. That is how impressed I am with the techniques taught in the book.
You will learn how to manage the naughty behaviors of your neice without having to resort to slapping. You may want to buy a copy of this for your niece's parents.
Good luck, I hope this helps.
2006-11-21 23:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by happytone365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind the child not to hit or bite. put her in time out and explain why. of course talk to her parents so hopefully they can be aware their child is doing this. I wouldnt say stop their play dates. she is ur niece and maybe she is acting out for a reason and needs love and affection that she may be lacking at home ( not to put down ur sis or bro). Look at everything as an oppertunity to change a life for the better and u may just be the one ur niece is needing. Id hate to push her away when I could have been a huge part of her growth and development for the better. By all means protect ur child. its natural. also talk to ur sis or bro to find out ur limits on how u can and can not disipline their child, just so u know. sounds like ur niece needs boundries so I would step up as the Aunt and teach her like my own. I love my sis and bro and I teach my neice and nephew all I can as my own. It would kill me to know I could have been apart to better a child and didnt. Especially my own family. ur nieces mommy and daddy may be overwhelmed or actually not know what to do. Just remember u love that girl and want the best for her too. Good luck and God Bless
2006-11-22 01:50:54 · answer #4 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the mother/father. What do they do in the situation. If nothing, then I would do/say something to the kid.
My sister and I are close. Our kids get along great, but I have no problem punishing her kids, and she has no problem punishing mine. We have had stated that to each other long ago.
I would speak to the parent, and let them know you don't like the behavior. If they won't do anything, then I would tell them that the next time it happens, I would take care of handling the situation. Their silence is them giving permission for things to go on, including you punishing your niece.
2006-11-22 00:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by volleyballchick (cowards block) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to this childs parent and see if this is a problem in general or just some form of jealousy with your kid.
Biting and hitting should not be allowed regardless of the age.
Keep them separate as often as possible until this child has learned how to behave - regardless of who she is with.
2006-11-25 23:15:54 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a southern style girl and I was always raised up to obey the rules or excuse my language get my *** wiped. And I tell you it taught be very valuable lessons as I've gotten older, the training starts at home I see that you said that you don't want to wipe her, but then again think about it you don't want your child walking around with bite marks and scratches on her either. And if wiping her isn't an option for you just tell your brother or sister she's not welcome at your home anymore unless she can obey your rules at your house.
2006-11-22 01:40:04 · answer #7 · answered by patricia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do, She is not being brought up with the proper time, love, discipline, and consequences. I would stay away from your niece, don't allow them to play. If your asked to babysit her, refuse. Don't put your daughter in harms way.
2006-11-22 04:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the play dates, and explain to the parents why. Tell them you are concerned for your daughter. They should get the point.
2006-11-21 23:40:28 · answer #9 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are your niece's parents when this is going on? Unless they discipline their child, you have to separate them to protect your own child.
2006-11-21 23:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by skaters mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋