My bf is emotionally abusive and I am going to a couselor right now to help me get through this. He is very controlling and very jealous of me spending time with anyone. He wants to be with me 24/7. I don't have enough characters to go into the things that he does that are driving me crazy. I lived in this house first and he moved in with me, so everything is in my name, so I can't leave him with it or he will wreck things and I will be responsible. If I had moved in with him, I would have been gone long ago. I have told him about 6 times to get out and he tells me that he loves me and he is here for the long haul...tells me that I am worth the fights we get into. I tell him that I am not and there has to be someone out there that will appreciate him more than I do. I was on my own for 3 years and am used to being able to have some freedom. He notices everything that I do when he is gone to work...right down to checking to see what time I sat the alarm to get up to go to work.
2006-11-21 15:18:01 · 8 answers · asked by lulu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is domestic violence and you need to get out of that relationship. Call your local social service agencies to get help and also sometimes the police can come and wait while he gets his stuff out. Get a restraining order against him also. Call the domestic violence hotline tell them of your situation and they will guide you in the right direction. No woman should have to endure things such as your situation and he may become physically abusive towards you. Be strong and don't let him control you. Also make a plan to leave and have a place to go for safe haven such as a good friend you can stay with in the event he turns physical Good Luck Will pray for you.
2006-11-21 15:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by Nuthouse 4456 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure when you tell this guy to het his things out that you have someone with you dont do it alone! Also having a police officer there when he is removing his things is also important as this will ensure he gets out and you are safe. Get a restraining order, change your phone numbers, and move out to another place if you can. Just keep yourself safe even stay with family or friends for awhile.Bedst of luck sincerely
2006-11-21 15:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Spastikus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everything is in your name kick him out and call the cops if he won't leave. I'm not an advocate of law enforcement being involved in things but he's abusive and it only gets worse. Trust me I know from experience. If his name is not on the lease or papers he can be charged with tresspassing if you tell him to leave and he won't, at least that's how it is in my state. Don't put up with that from anyone. You deserve better.
2006-11-21 15:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by crystal e 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he isn't on your lease then you can have your landlord evict him for you cause in some states you are only allowed to have people stay with you for short periods of time if you really want him out tell him to leave and if he doesn't you call the police and they can make him leave if he isn't on the lease he has no right to be there
2006-11-21 15:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by shynwaiting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now!!! There is no excuse to stay. Like they say, if there's a will there's a way.Your life sounds like a nightmare. Hope it goes okay and get your friends and family to help you
2006-11-21 15:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by elflocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, he emotionally abusises you? tell him to get the hell out, pack his things and put them on the porch, and lock the doors. if he has the keys, change the knobs and all that stuff. then if he stays out side, yell at him to leave, if he doesnt, call the cops!
2006-11-21 15:34:58 · answer #6 · answered by Darkangel617 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you need your space and if he dont give it to you you are gona leave him and that if he dont leave your gonna call 911 on his assssss
do you still love him
if you dont why are you still with him
2006-11-21 15:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO ON PARENTAL CONTROL!!~ MTV.
2006-11-21 15:22:01 · answer #8 · answered by Smile now Cry later 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋