my ex and i were together 10 months we broke up a few weeks after his father died because he had changed so much and i didnt know how to handle it.well i leaned on my best friend for support and we did have sex, only once.My ex wanted to get back together i didn't want to lie to him and told him what happened he flipped out on me and hasn't talked to me since i still love him and want him back am i insane for it?
2006-11-21 14:57:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't love him, you just want him. They're not the same thing.
2006-11-21 15:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not insane for wanting him back.
But HE would be insane for wanting YOU back after what you did. You totally broke his trust in you, even though you had broken up. You were probably the one person he could turn to and tell anything to, especially after going through the death of his father and you end up breaking it off and sleeping with your best friend? Not very nice at all.
You were the one who broke up with him because he had "changed" so much, so what makes you think that if you got back together, he wouldn't still be that "changed person" that you broke up with?
2006-11-21 23:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by Imperfect 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were so in love with your ex, why is your best friend a male who you had sex with? Also, people don't usually change "so much" in a few weeks. Your ex-bf was mourning the loss of his father, so of course he's going to be preoccupied, or distant, or sad, or moody. Do you think your insane?
2006-11-21 23:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex was just in grief which is why he "changed." If you weren't able to "handle it," than maybe you are not quite ready to be in a serious relationship. Maybe you should apologize to him and then give him space and take a time out for yourself, too. No guys for a while. Get to know YOU.
2006-11-21 23:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by GRH27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Kiley, you are insane. :)
Not really, but I think you need to move on. You might still love him but obviously the time isn't right for you two. You where honest with him about having sex with someone else while you where apart, but the key is...you where apart!! He is mad about something you did when you weren't together? That is completely unfair, unreasonable and you need to move on. It's not like you cheated.
Kiley, move forward. There are amazing men out there who could be the right one for you and what are you doing? Focusing your love and energy on one who can't accept you for who you are...flaws and all. Good luck!
2006-11-21 23:04:25 · answer #5 · answered by kcarp73 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow he was in a time of need and you walked out on him an screwed your best friend,in which i would assume your ex knew as well....do him a favour stay away and check on your morals of relationships.If he takes you back eventually how do you think the trust will be ,how do you think you would feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
2006-11-21 23:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pretty much.
2006-11-21 23:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by MM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋