one of my cousin staring at me all the time.?

Question

he is my mom's cousin's son.when ever i go to my mom's parents house.if he sees walking alone on the road or any where else he just stares for a while and this time when i went to my mom's parents house we had marriage in our house and i was sitting on the chair and he was standing far away he stared like 5 mintes and when i look move head and look at him .he moved his face other way..he is marriedhe has a son too.

Answer 1

Dear mansi,
This is a very common problem in India where male members of the family try to take advantage of relationships and most such events happen in joint families, family gatherings like marriages or other social functions. Please do not fall into this trap.

Here are some Donts:

You have to be assertive, and you have the right to say no if tries to take you somewhere; touches you; or makes you feel scared, uncomfortable, or confused in any way.

If the stares change to words/actions you have to be very curt, avoid any bodily/physical contact not even a brush (even accidentally) because it encourages the other person.

You should not get into a room, car or go anywhere with him unless you have told your parents.


If he tries to take you somewhere, quickly get away from him and curtly refuse. Such people work their way around relatives and parents and may try to take you along pretending for help.

Answer 2

Hey just tell your mom. Let her handle this. She can observe him a couple of times and than take necessary steps. As this is a family affair things might get a bit sour. But you have got to do something about this. This fellow is just lusting for you. In case your mom is not around and he stares at you just make a face which shows how disgusted you are with his behaviour i am sure he will understand that you dont like it and might not do it again. But u definately have to tell your mom about it.

Answer 3

maybe hes just trying to figure you out. and then maybe he thinks you better looking thn his wife and for some reason that doesnt seem to matter with men. men just like looking at pretty girls. it doesnt mean hes in lust over you after all he is your cousin and i quess he wouldnt think of it that way. maybe he wants to talk to you but doesnt know how to get to know you, he may just be shy. i wouldnt take too much into it. but if he was to make a move on you then yes i would really say something to your mom.and let her straighten him out.

Answer 4

hey...

I think you are good looking and having attractive figure than his wife. Though he is married and having son. He is now hunting for a new beautiful girl for his lust. Be carefull. next time when u happen to meet him in any occation, 1st inform elders about it and let them observe his beheaviour. if he is caught red handed, then he would never look at u.

Answer 5

lol he needs a number of your cleavage that's why. i'm specific which you figured this out your self, as made obtrusive by utilising the certainty which you: "exchange your suitable from t shirt". i don't understand why you're asking this question once you already be attentive to the respond

Answer 6

He is either a crank or a lech. Whatever, when he stares at you, don't just look at him. Vaporise him with a return steel stare. That should cure his malady.

Answer 7

helllo
just listen ur heart.
he is married so no question to go further.
just ignore him.
if he irritates u then tell ur parents about this.
dont do anything of urshelf.

Answer 8

You might just be over reacting on this notion he has on you. Why not approach him and tell him that you are not appreciating what he is doing...

End of speculation.

Answer 9

if u r friendly wid ur mom,u always share ur thoughts wid ur mom den go to her & say about ur cousin.coz d same happend wid my frnd too & had done d same .

Answer 10

Just look at the front of his pants and see if there is a tent.