I need some advice......?

Question

Ok, so I just got off the phone with this guy that I just met. We talked for like two hours. I felt like I was being really boring. Is that to long to talk to someone one the phone after just meeting them? When I talked to him yesterday, he said he wanted to hang out with me today, but he never asked, we just talked. Well it was getting to be a long convo so I said to him, we need to hang soon. He said I was just gonna ask you that. So we set something up for Friday during the day because he works at night. Well anyway, my question is, how do I know if he is interested? I haven't done this in 2 years, so I forget how to look for those signs. My other question is, Is talking on the phone with a guy for the first time for 2 hours a turn off? I don't even know where we should go for the first time. Any suggestions? And now he is online and did not IM. I am so confused for what signs to look for. Sorry for all the questions, I just don't wanna mess anything up.

Answer 1

Slow Down, you're analyzing. Be yourself. Don't let the insecurities get the best of you. You are the woman in this enigma and need to keep your head on straight. Women need to keep the guys in line. Hang out with him on Friday, don't give him any indications that you are interested unless you are sure you could be with this guy on another date. If the sweet talking shows up midway through your date, It means he's run out of things to say and wants to put this relationship on the fast track. It sounds weird, but think about it. It does make sense.You all may find each other attractive, but have nothing in common, now you have to figure out if you can stand to be around each other for another date, if not , then you start sweet talkin so you can get the gratuitous booty call and never see him again. If this guy bored you on the phone, he's going to bore you in person. But, I believe in second chances, go out on Friday and see what happens.

Answer 2

Well, you and him obviously had things to talk about for 2 hours I mean if there was no akward silence for most of the converstaion then it is a good thing. Dating is a game and it is a hard one to learn, you asked if it was okay that you did not IM him while he was online, well did he take the time to IM you? Nope because he is doing the same thing you are doing, worrrying about what is going to happen. If yu are going out on Friday night then go to get a drink coffee, dinner, something simple and just take it as it goes, let the mood set what else you do. I think he is interested but getting back into dating is hard, so good luck to both of you

Answer 3

No guy in his right mind can stay on the phone for 2 hours without being interested. It just isn't right or normal. He digs you girl grats! However after 2 hours on the phone what more could he say over the net? Plus he would probably need a rest from you after that epic phone call. Trust me when I say you will have plenty of time to talk with him in the near future, make the most of it. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hey I know exactly what you mean. Some guys like to talk on the phone and some dont. If he isnt interested he wouldnt have stayed on the phone for 2 hrs. You would have been lucky to get 5 minutes in my opinoin. Just be yourself. I think you should just go to a nice restaruant that you both will enjoy and just hang out. Hope I was a little help and good luck

Answer 5

Im a guy and everynight i talk on the phone for 30 min to 3 hrs. its when i seem to have the best convorsations with my g/f. Hes got to be interseted to be talkin on the phone for two hours any normal guy dont want to talk on the phone at all. Go out to eat or to an early movie. If hes online talk to him say hi ask how is day was. I like it when a girl wants to know how my day went. Just take things slow no need to rush.

Answer 6

phone conversations can be a good way to get to know someone you just met since the other person could feel more comfortable with their responses (although, 2 hours might have been a little too long). When you decide to hang out with him, go to someplace public, out to dinner, a movie, the mall, a walk in the park--someplace where there is sure to be other people. You do have to be careful to not be alone until you really know him well.

Answer 7

Girl. This guy talked to me for hours before. And it was the first time we talked on the phone. And guess what he was talking about most of the time............ his past girlfriends. The only reason why I was turned-off the whole time was the fact that all he seemed to talk about was his past relationships.

And another guy did the exact same thing ...

Take this one day at a time. Don't have too high expectations or you'll get hurt. Just be realistic and take your time. Don't rush and take things slowly.

Answer 8

if your on the phone for 2 hours with this guy thats not bad because this way you'll get to know him alittle bit before you hang out with him. and to know if he's interested you'll be able to tell by his reactions to diffrent things that you do. on your first date you should start with something romantic and simple like going out to a nice dinner then you should catch a good movie. just stay calm and act yourself while your out and everything will go smoothly.

Answer 9

Go to the bookstore and buy the book The Rules. They are a great way to waste time until he calls and gives some good ideas about dating. It's not a bible, but more like a how to guide for those of us who weren't ever told growing up.

Answer 10

Well I think, He still a stranger to me. Ask him some pictures if his online and other details from him. Don't be afraid, just make a conversation first before you hang out with him..