My mother in law has always despised me, and now her other daughter in law, for 'taking her son away from her'. She has always tried to cause arguements and turmoil between my husband and I, for the past 21 yrs. She is now doing the same to her other son and his wife who recently married. She has been complaining recently to my husband that she lost him 21 years ago, I took him from her. Me and my sister in law are at the point where we do not want to talk to her or be around her. Her remarks make us sick. There is no telling her anything because it's never her, it's everyone else. She has other issues but this one is really strange and sickening. She has re-married a man who is 4 years older than my husband.
2006-11-21 14:38:13 · 6 answers · asked by Mystic B 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Sounds like shes got some deep seeded issues, marrying a man that is 4 years older then her son. The kind of mom that secretly hopes her son will walk in while shes dressing or something... eww. Sorry you have to deal with that, but it sounds like at least you have someone with whom to share this unfortunate experience with, namely your new sister in-law. I'm sure the two of you will be able to help each other.
Mommy dearest needs to realize that you didnt "take him away", he probably RAN... and the only person to blame is the one that stares at her from the other side of the mirror.
Good luck geting that through her head though... as sad as it is, help is for those that want it, NOT those that need it.
2006-11-21 14:54:34 · answer #1 · answered by __MeTa__ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a disorder of some kind, but not Oedipus complex, because that's the other way around...the son wants the mother. I completely feel for you, because I have a meddling mother-in-law to be, and it completely sucks. No matter what you and your sister-in-law do to try and make things better, the mother-in-law will always be in the background mucking things up for you. She has issues that she needs to deal with, just like mine, and she will probably never get any kind of help for it. I've gotten advice from people on how to deal with mine, and the general concensus is that I just have to ignore her except when it is absolutely necessary to deal with her. That's my plan. Maybe you and your sister-in-law should give that a try. It seems to be working ok for me right now, and my mother-in-law to be actually thinks that my fiance owes her everything she ever wants or asks for because he's her son. Give it a shot. If it doesn't work, maybe someone else has another idea to give you. Good luck.
2006-11-22 02:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oedipus complex is the other way around-- the son wanting the mother.
You just have a run of the mill obnoxious mother in law. You either have to ignore her or move away. or maybe laugh at her as she is really quite stupid for saying these things
. Why dont you just tell her to pull her head in and that you are sick of her nonsense, after all she has no power over you does she
Unless of course she owns the house you live in-- then you have a real problem.
2006-11-21 14:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by virginia o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure and no. It relies upon on how heavily the female the guy is relationship resembles his mom. The extra she resembles his mom, the extra the opposite is definitely real. In classic Oedipus complicated, the toddler is emotionally severed from bonding with their parent because of the choice parent's lack of self belief, which then acts tocontinual a wedge between the two. because of the fact such preliminary bonding would not ensue, the toddler then tries to emotionally resurrect that lost parent's affection while they start to attach to different individuals. In such situations, there is not any Oedipus without Laius. it extremely is probable closer to a Jocasta complicated, when you consider that Oedipus' killing of Laius is what drove Jocasta to locate convenience interior the best-looking stranger first of all. In different words, without sturdy parent to deflect interest faraway from their toddler, the mum will attempt to marry their infants, or cause them to their usual concentration of love, that's certainly irrelevant. the toddler would not unavoidably have an Oedipus complicated because of the fact each and all of the inducement is on the mum. the toddler is only the bystander to the mum's source of lack of self belief. If we are persevering with with Greek examples, it may extra heavily resemble a Phaedra complicated, the place the mum places too plenty emotional investment into their toddler so as that they won't be able to separate their thoughts. the mum would not choose for any female to be stable adequate because of the fact it may propose the toddler could choose for them over the mum, that's what they must do. the mum nevertheless holds the toddler interior the virginal, pre-choose point, and for this reason tries to avert the toddler from becoming previous the thought that they must evaluate their mom's desires specially others.
2016-11-26 00:09:34 · answer #4 · answered by szewc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a real illness for sure and more common that you might think. It is the husband's mother that causes most of the turmoil in a relationship and not the mother of the wife as commonly thought. The name comes from a Greek tragedy.
2006-11-21 14:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by geoff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is illness. Its a disorder.
2006-11-21 14:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by lilborikua 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋