2006-11-21 14:34:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need psychological help child
2006-11-21 14:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by starlight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't specify how you're being used - but if it's sex, then it's simple - just don't do it until you feel you've gotten what you wanted, be it commitment or otherwise.
If you're being used financially and expected to always pick up the tab - again just don't. The most empowering thing you can do in any relationship where you feel that someone has the psychological advantage over you is to change your pattern of behaviour - you literally even out the playing field that way because the other party cannot anticipate or predict your response in a situation. You don't even have to be nasty about it - just stop offering.... if the other person asks that you yield to whatever they are wanting, just politely explain that you can't or don't feel comfortable and you feel that you have been more than accommodating.
2006-11-21 22:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Kble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably choosing the wrong type of guys. Before you make a committment to being someone's girlfriend, get to know the person first. Once you get to know the person better you can figure out if they are in it 100% or if they are just using you. Don't be easy or jump at quick opportunites because that is probably why you end up getting used. Just take your time and find the right guy.
2006-11-21 22:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by curlyq4990 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a better job picking them and don't allow yourself to be used. Put a lot more thought into who you go out with, and how long you wait before you do things with them. It's really not that difficult, just use your intelligence and common sense. You have both of those.
2006-11-21 22:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by sharky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First figure out what it is that draws you to these guys. Think about what you thought of them when you first saw them, first talked to them, etc. If you see a pattern you can avoid those type of guys. You will probably have to fight your own emotions to change who you end up with too.
2006-11-21 22:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure i can offer a detailed advice without know how they are using you and why you are allowing them to use you.
as a general thought, always be careful with guys.. get to know them really well before putting yourself into a vulnurable situation.
try to identify negative qualities in guys before you get too involved with them.
sorry to hear you have had some bad luck with guys. .but try to stay positive.. not all guys are going to be like that..
2006-11-21 22:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the belief that they will like you better if you let them use you, so you let them in hopes that they will like you. You need to work on your self-esteem and find better friends. Concentrate on you your school work. Getting good grades is a great self-esteem booster.
2006-11-22 11:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can anyone be making use of you if you do not want to be used?
You should be in control of your own actions. Frankly, no one can force you to do anything that you do not want to do yourself. So do not blame others. If you are willing to do things you are asked to do by others, whom can you point your finger at?
2006-11-21 22:41:55 · answer #8 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really want to improve with that here is my advice just wait for the guy who really appreciates u and that u think is sincere and everything then if u really think hes not gonna use u then take the chance...... goood luck.
2006-11-21 22:44:41 · answer #9 · answered by snowdood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang with nicer boys?
2006-11-21 22:37:56 · answer #10 · answered by MM 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u ar specific how they use u i can help u cause im a guy well anyway email me at:power_metal3000@hotmail.com if u email i can and will help u
2006-11-21 22:39:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋