My girlfriend gets drunk alot and she smokes marijuana once in awhile and she is very very open with her sexuality and she may be pregnant, my mistake I know...well she is telling me that if she is and has an abortion then shes going to leave me because i'll remind her of the abortion but if she isn't then she wants to stay with me and im not sure what to do.When im with her and shes around my friend she sort of forgets im even there and makes me feel horrible without knowing it because im the type that tries their best to hide they're emotions.Im scared that if i tell her then she will leave me...as you can tell im pretty insecure with myself. So my question is should I stay around and wait for her to make a move or just leave her?
2006-11-21 14:28:34 · 10 answers · asked by John L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I don't even know where to begin. If she thinks that she "might" be pregnant, why not clear any doubt by taking a test. Wal Mart now sells them for a dollar so there's no excuse! She needn't be smoking and most certainly not drinking if she "thinks" that she is pregnant. It is up to BOTH of you on what to do once you decide if she is pregnant or not. In my few years of life I have learned that if you are even contemplating splitting the sheets, it's more then likely inevitable. And can I just say, do you want honestly want someone that smokes and drinks when she thinks she is pregnant being the mother (provider, nurturer, caregiver) of your potential offspring? Should you be hiding your emotions if you are with someone that you honestly and truly love and care about ? I say no but you may feel differently. Regardless of who she is with or around or what Sally is doing or what Johnny is saying or whatever, she should be paying you some attention, making you feel comfortable and involved in attempt to make you enjoy doing things with (her and) her friends. But your question at hand is should you stay around and wait for her to make a move or just leave her I would say, buy a test, use it and then follow your gut/heart.
Good luck!
2006-11-21 14:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by kelreefl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, your girl needs some help and i suggest you help her find that cuz seriously its not the best what she's doin all the time. And if she is pregnant and says she's gonna leave you because of it then i say your better off without her in my opinion. If you don't want to get hurt i say you make the move and either talk to her or end the relationship. But its how you feel about the whole situation too.
2006-11-21 22:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by cutie pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you let her know how you feel about her drinking and smokin? You shouldnt be afriad to show your emotions. especially with your g/f. If I were you and you really like this girl. Id try sitting down and having a talk about the things that are bother you, and try to come to a comprimise. But then also I wouldnt stick around with somebody that ignores me and makes me feel horrible all the time. lifes to short for all that. Just hope that she isnt pregant. so that you can move on with your life and if she is hopefully she will ship up so you dont have to ship out
2006-11-21 22:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by m_f_hustler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry this all happening i know i'm only a thirteen year old girl but there's answer you can't be all that bad if you are dealing with all of this and really if thats how she treats you than you should leave her do what u can to help with the possible baby situation and besides that she obviously hasn't been caring about find someone else that actually cares do u live in billings if so there are some good resources.
2006-11-21 23:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by *UnderneathItAll*U&UrHand-Pink* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is pretty messed up and the relationship is not a healthy one. You should end this relationship. If she chooses to keep the baby, then be a responsible father but that is it. Put this behind you and get out there and find someone who will make you feel good about yourself!
2006-11-21 22:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound very happy at all so my vote is to leave her and move on and learn to love yourself. You don't need a woman in your live to define you. If she keeps the baby , and proves that it is yours then help take care of it, if not move on. She doesn't sound like a keeper her . She is more of a run far away from her as fast as you can.
2006-11-21 22:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her bro. It isn't gonna get any better, sounds like a pretty bad relationship. Sorry you had to put up with being mistreated like that for so long.
I really hope she's not pregnant.
2006-11-21 22:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by sharky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girl friend is a nut bar, i hope to god she is not pregnant, if she is not or if she is and has an abortion, get rid of the psycho ***** you sound OK but get your freedom dud.
2006-11-21 22:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all pray to god that she is not preg. if she drinks and smoke pot god knows what hard she had done to the baby already. Sounds like she just wants someone to take care of her_
2006-11-21 22:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude...leave her. she gets high, drinks heavily and may be preg.??? also...here's a red flag: she pays more attention to you friend?? that's BS. just leave her. the baby might not even be yours.
perhaps you should work on your self-esteem. i mean no offense by that...but self confidence is quite attractive. ;)
2006-11-21 22:32:59 · answer #10 · answered by Zenobia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋