SO MY GIRLFRIEND HAD A GREAT SEX DRIVE WHEN WE FIRST MET AND SHE IS SUPER SEXY ALL THE TIME AND I LET HER KNOW THAT. I TRY MY BEST TO MAKE HER FEEL SEXY. I WOULDNT SAY IM A PIMP BUT I KNOW IM NOT A BAD LOVER. FOR SOME REASON THE LAST WHILE SHE SAYS HER SEX DRIVE IS GONE... IT HAS BEEN GONE FOR LIKE 6 MONTHS AND SHE WONT DO ANYTHING TO PLEASE ME WITHOUT GETTING MAD AND SHE DOESNT EVEN LIKE ME DOING STUFF TO HER. I ALSO NOTICED SHE TRYS TO CONTROL EVERYTHING EVERYTHING EVEN SEX. WE FIGHT ABOUT SEX ALL THE TIME BUT I LOVE HER AND IF SHE DOESNT CHANGE LIKE I HAVE ASKED HER TO THEN IM GONE!!!! ANY HELP ????????
2006-11-21 14:12:12 · 7 answers · asked by NONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she started to use toys...I have heard that once you start using them then you will never want the real thing again... I dont know from experience but that is what I heard...Missy
2006-11-21 14:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by melissa_spear2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There can be lots of reasons some emotional or physical. If it's emotional, then you need to find out whats' going on with her, if you have been dating for 8 months, she should know you and feel comfortable with you to tell you whats' wrong. Now, if it's physical thing,she needs to figure out whats wrong. sometimes the birth control pill can take away a womens drive. Is she super stressed out? Is she having family problems? all these things can cause some women to lose the desire.. Also I am not sure how old you guys are, but also as a woman gets older ( like me) I am almost 40 some woman also lose the desire.. If you love her like you say, maybe try one day to do something different, like take a walk, go to the park. and don't mention sex at all, maybe be affectionate, but that's it. Pretend you are on a first date. Maybe after doing this awhile see if she changes, if not, they you might need to have a heart to heart talk and ask he to explain what she is feeling. I know this sounds corny, but try. Good luck
2006-11-21 22:27:06 · answer #2 · answered by Bec 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you push her to change, the deeper you are burying her sex drive. A woman has to feel connected. You need to romance her and not expect her to have sex with you. If you were OK with not having sex until she was ready to again, and still romance her, it would do wonders for you. She may be feeling that sex is overwhelming the relationship and that you don't appreciate her unless she puts out. No girl wants to be given the ultimatum of giving it up or you are leaving....you are digging a sexual grave for yourself, if not with her, with whoever else you end up with. Women will only take that for so long. If you love her, you will work with her on this, and not give her ultimatums. Plus, girls sometimes lose their sex drive for a bit, and regain it when THEY are ready.... OK, last thing...instead of telling her she is super sexy all the time, try telling her she is 'beautiful', 'smart', 'funny', 'sweet'....let her know that you appreciate the "real" her and not JUST the physical and sexual part of her.
2006-11-21 22:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by D R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months?! With my current bf (2 yrs) the sex has always been frequent .We used to have sex a few times a day back to back. We don't do it THAT much anymore(I was only seeing him one or two days a week.thats a lot of time to make up for!)We have sex every day/every other day.He's always ready.I'm usually up for it unless I have a lot on my mind or am mad/annoyed at him or tired.usually girls need the foreplay.every guy I've been with I did.my bf now is good at it all but most of the time I prefer to just have sex right away.not sure why.It depends on my mood as to what I want.stress,having stuff on your mind,or being upset with the person play a HUGE factor in a girls' sexdrive.I should add that sometimes he doesnt know I am upset with him and he may not have done anything wrong, but everyone has their moods and can be irritable.
*Try doing something romantic: dinner/flowers/spa...every girl likes to be pampered. say sweet things. often times, that is a big turn on. it puts pressure on her too knowing that you want sex and she doesnt. it makes her feel bad and self conscious. perhaps she is self conscious (some girls dont like being on top for example). knowing that you are pressuring her so much turns her off even more. its not good that she is controling though. she has the right to control sex in the sense that she doesnt have to allow you to have sex with her though.
2006-11-24 19:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Amy*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that you just don't give her what she wants. Maybe it is just a mismatch in sexual desire. In general a woman's desire is much lower than that of men, basically we are to be ready when they decide they want it but that doesn't go the other way. But we usually want it so much that we are willing to be at their beck and call in that area. After the new wears off it is necessary to broaden your horizons. You say you are good in that area, do you make a serious effort to give her what she wants or do you just assume you are good enough that she should be happy to get sex from you.
2006-11-21 22:22:35 · answer #5 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,when i got married my husband's sex drive went down the tubes. i thought the woman was the one who said not tonight.
i have a very strong sex drive and it sucks major! that he dosen't have the same sex drive as me. he tells me that when he was younger he had a really stronger sex drive and now it's not as strong.well he is only 32. i think that he needs to take vitamins or a supplement to highten his sex drive. i do not think it's normal for a man or women to have a low sex drive if they are young and healty.
2006-11-21 22:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by jennafurluv27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Thrill Is Gone............Bye-Bye
2006-11-21 22:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by summersailing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋