I told my boyfriend that i would love to get married July 7,2007 but he tells me that his friend is getting married that day and he ask him to be the best man. So we can't get married. What should I do. His friend is not even his best friend. His best friend already got married and my boyfriend was the best man. Do you think is fair if he picks his friend over me.
2006-11-21 14:09:53 · 57 answers · asked by needanswers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
no dont be silly.. if hes already said yes to be the best man at his friend's wedding i can see where he's coming from.. u can always have the wedding the weekend after? it would be a different story if he doesnt want to marry you at all
2006-11-21 14:12:50 · answer #1 · answered by tu_sweet189 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is so special about that day? When you have been married 50 years is that day going to be what matters?Or the time you spent together? Regardless of whether it is his best friend or not, he was asked to be the best man. I think it's kinda selfish to put yourself in the victim seat here- Look at his position. And look on the bright side too- Would you really want to share a wedding date with someone else you know? Now you can pick a special day for the 2 of you!
2006-11-27 05:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you want to get married that day..07-07-07 very cute....so you should understand that your husband's friend's fiance would want her wedding then too. Obviously their wedding date was picked before your's and even though you say the groom is not your husband's best friend, they are close enough for him to be chosen as the best man and should go through with his first commitment....Try thinking of your favorite numbers and use that for a new date (unless it's just 7!) or how about the date you first got together or your first kiss. My favorite numbers are 4 and 7 so 04-07-07 was the date i wanted to get married but the venue was already booked...so my fiance suggested 07-04-07 but i said i didn't want to get married on a holiday...he told me the fireworks every year would be just for us on our anniversary and the date was booked yet, so now that's our date. Try to find another and good luck!
2006-11-22 16:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by craigsgirly47 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seeing as you're a bride-to-be, you understand that wedding's are really important moments in people's lives. It could be that though this person isn't your boyfriend's best friend, your boyfriend could be an important person to the groom. In that case, though it's hard, you may need to put yourself in his shoes (or his wife-to-be's shoes), and understand why your boyfriend needs to go to this wedding. The other thing is you can still get married, but maybe you could wait a year (i know, that's asking the impossible...lol), or you could just try to find another date that's just as suitable. Maybe your boyfriend has a date in mind??? I think it would be best for you to talk it over with your boyfriend...cuz we all know how much guys like to talk...and let him know how you feel. However, in the end, i do think it would be best if you let him decide for himself what to do, it's not really that he's picking his friend over you, it's just that it's an honor to be a "best man" (especially more than once!), and we all know how men are with their egos. Hope all goes well!
2006-11-28 14:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by sk8rgrl02631 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How novel 7-7-07. Cute and the honey moon in Vegas!
You can pick whatever day you want if he does not agree with ti then I think you can find some other guy who is not busy on that date. If you guys have set that date then he should hold to it. If not you have enough time to plan for 8-8-08 before any of his other friends pick it. Keep in mind a wedding is just a formality . I have know people to get married on Wednesday and hold the formal wedding on Saturday to get their friends there.
Best of luck, sounds like a slightly rocky start to what is suppose to be happily ever after.
2006-11-21 14:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He had a previous commitment. He is not "not picking" you. You have to pick another date. Plus, I know someone who wanted to get married on 7/7/07 and so many vendors have already been booked for so long they had to change to 7/14/07, so it may not even really be a possibility for you. I wouldn't pick a fight over it. Get married the week before so you can go to this wedding as a Mrs.
2006-11-29 03:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not understanding something. His friend is getting married that day and his friend already got married? Is this the same friend? Maybe he just don't want to get married and don't know how to tell you. The only way to find out is to ask.
2006-11-29 01:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by peanut44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the situation, if he told his friend he'd be best man a ways before you asked to be married on July 7,2007 it's not fair to ask him to tell his friend he can't go. Maybe you should have it a week later or something
2006-11-21 14:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by aeseeke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "told" your boyfriend that you wanted to get married July 7, 2007 OR you guys got engaged and then set that date? If you already had the date set, then yes he is wrong to change your date to accomadate someone else. BUT if you guys didn't already have that date set then be happy you are marrying someone w/ integrity. You are marrying a good man.
2006-11-28 18:30:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your boyfriend ask you to get married and when you gave him that date he said he couldn't? It seems to me that if you were a serious couple you would have already known that he was going to be a best man that day because you of course would be going with him. It sounds to me like getting married is your idea and that you two are not really engaged or ready to set a date.
2006-11-21 14:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend has already given his word and committed himself to be a best man for his friend. How much would you respect or trust a guy who easily broke or went back on his word? Simply sit down with him and try to come to an agreement on a date that is best for both of you. Then, if you see a lot of hesitation you may have a problem. Don't be jealous over his friendships. That has destroyed many relationships.
2006-11-21 14:22:46 · answer #11 · answered by utuseclocal483 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋