i went to a soccer game one night, with people not from my school. this girl came up to me and said, "my brother thinks you're hot, and wanted me to give you his myspace. he's too much of a chicken to tell you himself." and she gave me a piece of paper with a link and walked away. i didn't even know who he was. i went back home and added him, and he's REALLY REALLY REALLY attractive. he talked to me a little at first, and commented my pictures about how "gorgeous" i am and stuff. i get that a lot, not to be vain or anything. he asked for my screen name. i am only 14 years old, and a freshman. he is a 17 year old junior. BUT i told him i'm a 15 year old sophomore because i was afraid he'd think freshman are lame. he's kind of a little bit of a pervert, but all guys guys his age are so i'm not worried. he wants to hang out at the mall this weekend, and he just asked me on aim "do you kiss on the first date??"
i'm kind of nervous. how do i act? what should i say? what should i doooo?
2006-11-21 14:09:51 · 16 answers · asked by lia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lia, your parents HAVE TO KNOW first!! Please don't go meet him w/o asking them first!! He may 'seem' ok, but what happens if he were to convince you to go for a ride with him and he suddenly acted different and you felt defenseless?
PLEASE don't let us be hearing about you on the local news!! Every single person you've heard about being killed all started off with someone who "Seemed nice & normal" but then things changed and their 'Animal' took over. PLEASE just ask your parents first!! :))
2006-11-21 14:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by Chuck S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that forward on your first few conversations then I would seriously worry about the rest of your relationship. Did you ever stop to consider the fact that he might be shy, but still a complete waste of good looks. Go on the date if you want, but keep your guard up. Oh, if you have any sense make it very, VERY clear that he isn't getting anything, ANYTHING on the first date and for quite a while. If he sticks with you and doesn't try and force anything then he might be all right. By the way you describe some of the things he wrote, you might not be talking to your dream date. Good luck and remember there are some things you can't get back, so don't give them up easily!
2006-11-21 14:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by chromecranium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live in the US, you may want to re-think going out with him. You have an age difference that could get him arrested. Will you be sneaking behind your parents back to date a guy who is that much older than you? If so, re-think that. As far as being nervous, you should be, he's 17 and kind of a pervert, your concern shouldn't even be kissing, it should be the fact that he will be thinking/wanting sex, and how will you handle that? I don't mean to be a *****, but I have a little bit of life experience. This doesn't sound like a good idea.
2006-11-21 14:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your parents going to let there 14 go to the mall alone with a 17 year old male. I think if they have brain in head NO> i bet they do not know what the baby is doing. DO they little girl. If he likes you now he will like you when you are mature enough to handle a growing boy. Tell him your real age and why you did not at first, tell him you do nothing with people you are just starting to get to know. Keep things lose and friendly, easy and open, nothing serious or you will get you heart broke.
2006-11-21 14:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by picture 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's great that you both find each other physically attractive, but please keep in mind that there are a lot more things to consider when dating people..
for him to ask you upfront about kissing on the first sends off alarm bells.. he may only be interest in you for physical things..
before agreeing to go out with this guy, ask your friends about him.. find out if he is a decent guy. you don't want to end up on a date with a guy that could be trouble..
at 14, i would personally recommend that you are too young to kiss on a first date.. but that's just my opinion.
i'd suggest telling him that no kissing on the first date... then you can see if he is really interested in you as a person, or not. if he still wants to meet up with you, then that would be a good sign.
as far as lying about your age, well, i can understand why you lied, but at some point, you'll eventually have to tell him the truth.. might as well be honest with him sooner than later.
2006-11-21 14:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you should not have lied to him...even tho i am a freshman too and i like this junior i would Never date him because after he's a senior, unless we were totally connected, we would most likely break up. My advice is to go to the mall and have fun--with him AND a friend of urs. Dont do anything that u will regret later on either! Trust me on this one. I am a freshman just like you-o wait, i already mentioned that.
2006-11-21 14:16:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T GO!!!!!!!! DON'T GO!!!!!!! DON'T GO!!!!!!!
I'm so serious. Don't think of me as trying to ruin your relationship, but this dude, for all you could know, could be a register sex offender just wanting to rape you because you were ignorant enough to meet him. You never know the far measures some people go to get what they want. From what you wrote, this guy sounds pretty sly to me. For example, contacting you first through another person which you didn't know and second, if you are pretty, which it sounds like you are, then thats just even more that a sex offender wants. It's all a game for them. PLUS, if you've matured (if you understand what I mean) then you could wake up tomorrow so oblivious to the danger and go to bedas a single parent to who you don't know the other parent. PLEASE, take my advice, and don't go any further with this. Take the reasonable information and don't go!!!
2006-11-21 14:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by smile_@_me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay home and tell him you were grounded. Then start to hang around with kids your own age and maturity level.
It's pretty easy for a 17 year old to impress and lead on a 14 year old. After all, he's more that 20% older than you are.
Hey, if your parents are ok with it after you tell them the truth.......
2006-11-21 14:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go have fun but definitely do not kiss him guys do not respect girls that kiss on the first date no matter what they say.
about the age thing he is a little too old for you and he will eventually find out t\your age so you should def. tell the truth
2006-11-21 14:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 14:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋