Im going out with this guy. But before i went out with him i had my eye on someone else. But they said He liked me but wasn;t ready for a relationsip. Nd i respect that, so i waited nd waited, and waited. then i got tired of waiting and My bf asked me out. ANd i said yes. But i have feelings for the other guy too. And i dont wanna dump my bf. What should i do?!?
2006-11-21 13:55:40 · 26 answers · asked by 1m@ h3@rT Br3@k3r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't dump your boyfriend. Give it time. Eventually you might find that your boyfriend is a better man than the guy who "wasn't ready". Obviously your boyfriend had the respect and the guts to have a relationship with you. I say give him some respect and stick with him for a while. If after you give it time, you find that you are still having strong feelings for the other guy, then you should make your move of dumping one for the other. Just be cautious, and weigh all your options. Remember, you are not the only one who could get hurt. GOOD LUCK :-)
2006-11-21 14:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Lissy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
foucs on what you have, is it wroth loosing him over this other guy? You know you have a great thing with your bf, but you dont know if you will have a great thing with this other guy, its a chance you can make....do you want to make it. Look at why you like your bf and what you like about this other guy. See if there are more things about one than the other. I think you should forget this other guy and tell him that if things happen not to work out with your bf than maybe yous can hock up in the future but right now you are happy and your bf seems to be the right one for you, and you dont want to mess it up. But if your still not sure, than maybe you should break up with your bf, tell him that you love him, you really do and that you just need time to sort things out. Than once your single you need to decide what you want, and who. Take as much time as you want, but remember that they wont be there forever. But once you chose than you need to commit that that guy and that guy only. And let go of the other man and not look back.
2006-11-21 22:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chicks can never make up their minds these days. lol. I suggest you follow your heart. Are you happy now? Will you be happier with the other bloke? Was it worth waiting for someone else or should you give the guy who was waiting for you a fair go? Seriously it sounds like your current boyfriend deserves a good chance with you. Don't mess about or mess it up. The heart can be the most painful thing to mend.
2006-11-21 22:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by geronemo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends of how old are u? If your under 25 and have no intentions of marrying before 30 hey! go ahead play them both. You don't love none of them otherwise this would not be a question. But if you are 25 or older (which I doubt) and want to get married stop the games and evaluate your choices; seriously.
2006-11-21 22:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by ALIBUGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should stick with your boyfriend. Its fine to like someone while you are going out, because everyone has those moments. But don't dump your bf for this other guy because what if he doesn't like you? Or when the time is right and you brake up then maybe you should go out with this other guy.
2006-11-21 22:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When your heart and your head are at conflict, listen to your GUT. If you are with a man but love someone else, you are not doing yourself, the man you are with, or the other person you love any favors. Think of the Golden Rule. Would you want to be with someone who only liked you but loved someone else...? If you do decide to break up with your boyfriend, do it honestly and respectfully. You will feel better and so will he if you are straightforward with him (and with the other person, too).
2006-11-21 22:04:49 · answer #6 · answered by GRH27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alot of great advice here for you, so really there is not much more I can tell you, except that if you are having mixed feelings, then maybe you should just be on your own for a while to find out more about yourself
2006-11-21 22:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probally do really love ur bf, but think about it, if ur thinkn bout another guy maybe u and your bfs relationship is not that strong after all. however if this other guy waited till you were alreaddy taken maybe its his bad luck i think he has realized when its too lat and u should just let em both go. find som1 completley new much more fun!!!!
2006-11-21 22:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see which feelings become stronger. I can like a guys one day but like a different guy another. I will always like my b/f and chances are you will end up like this too.
2006-11-21 21:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there.........I guess if its meant to be then one day it will be if you haven't been in the relationship with your present boyfriend for long then go for it if you have been with him for a long time then you need to figure out if the guy you like is worth the risk......spend some good time with the guy you've liked for awhile and see if infact he his someone that will give you all that need,emotionally ,mentally ya know if you guys would really be a good fit for you
2006-11-21 22:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋