im in this situation...my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 8 months now. i really love him and i want to have the best relationship possible, but i keep hearing all of these rumors. like he's always flirting with all of these other girls. when i ask him about things that really bother me he jumps off and it always seems to come back as me believing everything i hear. he wants me to express my self and be real with him but when i do it just doesnt come out right. i want him to be faithful, but i just dont know if i can trust him. i know that he really cares about me,,, but i also think that there are some sideline females that im not 2 sure about. i really need to know the truth, but i dont want to lose him...what should i do?
2006-11-21 13:49:50 · 8 answers · asked by MEl.BADdASz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think the best way is honestly asking him and speaking up about how you feel.....theres really no easy way to do this and its hard to not feel jealous. i hated showing signs of jealousy towards my boyfriend but sometimes you have to.
i know that in my last relationship i didn't speak up and ask him about other girls and he ended up breaking up with me for this other girl that was always sticking around.
i was so upset about it, and knew he always had a thing for her too. well the good news was they went out for 2 months and realized she wasn't the same way i was. broke up with her and now is coming back to me. weird isn't it?
2006-11-21 13:54:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him again this time tell him that the two of yous need to have a good chat. tell him that you love him and want this to work out that hes the best thing that has happend to you and you hope he feels the same. tell him that there are times that jealously does take over you and that you worry. Tell him that for this relationship to get stronger there needs to be trust. tell him you trust him but need to hear some things from him and he needs to earn in 100 percent. As well as he needs to do the same for your trust. Tell him you want to know if he has any interest in other girls, or if its just you that he wants, tell him that you want no secrets between yous, and that you want him to be straight up, and that yous will make a pack if either one of yous get caught in a lie that its over for good. Tell him that you need some question answered if things are being said about him because you just want to hear his side of the story, your not jumping into any conclusions you just want to hear the truth, it just makes you feel better.
2006-11-21 21:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't keep asking him about it because they are just rummars. You say he really cares, then he wont cheat and he is not flirting, he is just being nice to other girls. If he has something he really wants you to know he will tell you himself, so dont let the rummars get to you.
2006-11-21 22:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know from experience that you cannot force someone to love you or to be faithfull to you>If hes going to cheat on you he will do it..If he cheats once than he will always cheat.You desere and are worth more than that ...In a realtinship there must be 2 key factors for it to work..Communication And Trust ..Without these its a dead end...You should go with your gut feeling....If he does cheat on you than dump him....You need someone who is loyal only to you
2006-11-21 21:56:06 · answer #4 · answered by cynthia v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once u losing ur faithful, u losing all...
u suspect tis, u suspect tat.. & that is wasting ur energy...
& u fall down in the end..
flirt with others.. maybe he just see, not flirt.. cos that all just the rumors as u said.. u heard it not u see it...
so, u still a part of him... just be good to him..
better than before.. (talk softly as u could)
2006-11-21 22:06:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rosia R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you investing 8 months of your time in someone that you don't trust? I'd just let him go.
2006-11-21 21:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him now you never will. Find someone that you can trust and NEVER have to question. Been there done that. Don't put yourself through that.
2006-11-21 21:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by William T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him trust him but set him up and see but remember he is not dead he can and will look and so will you
2006-11-21 21:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by rradboys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋