i can't stand my mother?

Question

She makes me feel bad when I ask for something (which I haven't done since I was 6).She gets emotional if I say something she doesn't like.For example,we'll be joking one minute,but the instant I say something,it's not a joke anymore.And I think she tries to get me to pity her, so I don't ask for anything.

Hey, I'm not a perfect daugher.I make mistakes,I get a C every once and a while,but I think of myself as a good child.How can I talk to her about or get her to stop acting like she needs to be pitied.I mean, I hate to sound selfish,but I AM the daughter.Sometimes it's like...she expects me to put my life on hold for hers.

Any advice??!

(Oh.And I'm a minor, so that makes it worse in my opnion.I'm stuck till I'm 18)

Answer 1

My mother not only specializes in guilt trips, she owns the agency.

Answer 2

I feel bad for you too. There is a possibility that depending on her age she is going through the change of life. Her body and losing her periods. You said though that you have felt badly since you were six. I think she could have manic depression. My mom has it and they will change moods at the drop of a hat. Pray to make it end. That is the only answer, or don't and watch her continue. Please don't hate her, you would not be here if it wasn't for her. Just see her as a person who needs help.

Answer 3

sometimes or most of the times mothers are like that. they felt they being ignored or taken for granted. mothers usually are possisive type. sometimes even theyre wrong, they will force you to believe that theyre right. some mothers are dominant by instinct. mothers have different type how to dicipline their childrens, some mothers accepts comments and faults, but most of the times theyre dommineering their childrens behavior. but take note even mothers are (as i mentioned above) within their hearts they felt the emptiness, bitterness and sadness, if ever their children went wrong or go wrong. but if their children did the right thing or choose the right path, mothers are secretly proud and happy. maybe your mother wants only the best for you, and maybe your mother is not the type of a person who always shows appreciations, but within herself, shes proud and she loves you so much. try to understand your mother., know the source why your mother is acting as what you said. show all the possible means that you still care for her and mostly show the affections needed. i know you love her, its just you are confused.assure your mother that you will not leave her no matter what and say I LOVE YOU MOM,

Answer 4

hey well tell yor mom ha! mom i really love u i think are great but i have too tell u somethin gvery important!!!!! i just............ well.............. it just seems like u take everythin soo serously and give her the example u just gave us and then say i dont want u to be mad at me i just am your daughter and i love u and i want to tell my thoughts and feelings to u please understand!!! and if she is soo buzy all the time and u can get on the comp and your mom is or is not their tell her what i told u are how this or that makes u feel by emailing her. then she might respond! or call her up or leave her a message i hope this works! see u bye!!!!!

Answer 5

You sound just like my friend Jenny. Her mom exspects her to do everything for her, she is 22 and she is living and paying for her own apparment. But her mom MADE her pay for her water bill. Its like she is being used by her own mom for money and bills.

Really just ask her when she gets like this if she is okay. Cuz to me in seems she is hiding something.

Answer 6

well i know some mom knows what is best for their kids are not perfect and we need to help them i am sorry i could not be much help

Answer 7

you should tell her that you can't pity her because you have a great desire to be pitied all time your own self.