My boyfriend is Jewish and I am Christian (non-practicing Catholic to be precise). I know that Hanukkah is not as important to Jews as Christmas is to Christians, but I'm wondering if I should buy him a Hanukkah present? If so, on which night of Hanukkah should I give him a present? Does it really matter or is it more of the thought that counts? I'm not expecting a Christmas present (although if he wants to give me a gift, I would appreciate it), and I'm not wanting to give him a gift simply in the hopes that he will reciprocate. Any advice?
2006-11-21 13:19:50 · 21 answers · asked by jacket1996 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Hanukkah
Buy a present, give it on the first night.
2006-11-23 03:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Justin H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am Jewish and have a Christian boyfriend. Jews usually get one present a night for eight nights, but that can kind of be a pain in the @$$ on a tight budget. You can do two things-exchange gifts on the day that falls right in between Hanukkah and Christmas, or give him his gift on the eighth night of Hanukkah, and he can give you yours on Christmas. But I know for us it doesn't really matter when we get the gifts, it really is all about the thought that counts. We exchange gifts on the 8th night of Hannukah because he knows it is one of the most special nights of the season for me.Hope this helps!
2006-11-25 02:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by tiffanyrpunk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not as important to him but for the majority of Jews it is just as celebrated as Christmas is for Christians. Just because there are hardly any TV and Magazine ads about Hanukkah does not mean it's a less important holiday.
If he is a practicing Jew, then by all means by him a gift.
2006-11-22 00:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by KathyS 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I would give him one on the first night of hanukkah. My advice just hand him the gift say happy hannukkah and then give him a kiss. Everything should be fine.
2006-11-21 13:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all you are wrong to assume that hanukah is not as important to jews as cristmas is to christians... do you even know what the holiday represents? maybe you should find out from an ortodox source because really gift giving is not really part of chanukah it just somehow became a tradition
anyhow you guys should establish beforehand wether you are exchanging gifts this year it makes it so much less complicated because sometimes you have to spell things out for guys.... if you want to get him a gift get him a gift and dont worry about seeming that you want one in return if you honestly dont care then you wouldnt even be thinking of yourself and how you come off as and youd just get him a present because you wanted to ..period.
2006-11-21 13:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by ms_whitie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is just as important excuse you. By all means get him a gift, its just like him giving you a Christmas present. It doesn't matter which night that you give it to him, but give it after the candles are lit. Get him anything that he would like, it doesn't matter what it is, there is nothing specific. Oh, and BTW THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK/TYPE!
2006-11-24 04:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Forget the gift give him a card for a night with you and go out on the town. Sex trumps any gift anyway wear a bow and have fun. That would be a better gift than a ipod that you would put yourself in debt for.
2016-03-29 04:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the a to 8 persent becuz i am a jew and there r 8 days in this holidayn and i get 8 presents
2006-11-24 11:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by i ♥ u 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not Jewish but I would say it is the thought that counts as for that last statement I would say that denial is not just a river in Egypt.
2006-11-25 04:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Certainly give him a present. We have many jewish friends and we give them Hanukkah present and they give up Xmas presents. Welcome to the USA.
Do what you feel it right for you for him
2006-11-21 13:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋