my son makes lots of faces in the mirror and has full blown conversations. i hope he is ok. he seems to be. i hve told him talking to himself too much is a bad habit but said ts ok sometimes. i feel bad as i know he must be lonely as he is an only child and we dont have kids n our neighbourhood.
2006-11-21 13:11:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
its called imagination, and he has it in spades. Yes it is very normal. I am more concerned with your attitude toward it, don't squash his imagination, let him be a happy go lucky 5 year old and dont burden him with your own artificial fears.
2006-11-21 13:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by Paul S 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. He is just at that age where he is really learning who he is. Talking to himself provides him comfort, amusement, allows him to develop his independence and keeps him amused. Looking at himself in the mirror is normal. He is seeing how things "work" and figuring out who he is. Not to worry. Allow him to continue. I was an only child too, and I kept myself company (at least according to my mom). He'll be fine. Remember those kids who have teaparties with their dolls, and army battles with their G.I Joes. While it's important that he be put in situations that allow him to develop social skills (Gymboree, mother's group at the library, pre-school), you will find that once he starts school, he will have the ability to make conversation and therefore develop new friends.
Your son is in the height of learning about himself. As long as he's safe, please don't worry. Sit back, watch, make faces in the mirror with him and LAUGH. Write down some of the things he says. When he's 20, show him what you've written.
2006-11-21 14:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Allison S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a five year old too and have been wondering the same thing. My five year old's conversations with "invisible friends" which incidently all have names, are very dramatic and have different sounding voices. I think this is supposed to be normal but I'm going to consult with our Kindergarten teacher to get her opinion. Think that this is considered a normal stage of growing up.
2006-11-21 13:32:12 · answer #3 · answered by Metnobal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a bit unusual.
As the mother of an only child, you have to get aggressive about making play dates. I joined a group to have play dates and I signed her up for Daisy scouts in Kindergarten. I always tried to take along friends when we went to the zoo or other places.
2006-11-21 14:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is three and is like a budgie with a mirror - always in front of it, entertaining himself. Fine, so long as your child is also outdoors a lot, and has friends, and other normal stuff too.
2006-11-21 20:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is compensating for the lack of playmates, he's also developing a sense of self. It is normal and healthy. If you can't stop worrying then enroll him in some sort of activity. Try swimming or martial arts or something social. He will probably still play in front of the mirror at home. Play with him yourself too. Kids can't get enough of parental attention.
2006-11-21 13:23:49 · answer #6 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a lonely child maybe if you can call some of your Friends who has kids his age maybe you can set up a play date for him or take him to the park where other children are better yet call the y.m.c.a or pal or community center in your neighborhood and ask them do they have some kind of program you can sign him up with for children his age good lurk and god bless.
2006-11-21 13:38:55 · answer #7 · answered by bigmomma3526 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal - I would be more worried if he was too quiet, lol. Especially being an only child he needs someone to converse with on a similiar level as himself, so who better than.......himself!
2006-11-21 13:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by magen n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's okay. Its just fun make believe stuff he's doing. He's got a good imagination...I think that's healthy. I used to play by myself all the time when I was little (I was an only child until I was 8.5) it was fun. I didn't have an imaginary friend, but defintely had little tea parties, and fun pirate ship adventures.
2006-11-21 13:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by tangyterp83 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure, why not? kids have imaginary friends and plenty of adults talk to themselves.... why you would call it a bad habit is beyond me. I doubt it's because he is lonely. Sounds like he has a lot of fun doing it and it's great practice for learning to communicate. Go easier on the kid and if you're worried about lonliness get him a playdate!
2006-11-21 13:16:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋