Everyone has a bad breakup story. My problem is...he never broke up with me. I have been in love, dating, this guy online for nearly four years. W agreed he would come home to me. But just as the dat ewe arranged rolled close by, he stopped showing up. It's been over a month since I've heard a word from him.
I tried contacting him everyway I possibly could. But he hasn't checked his email, voicemail and won't answer his phone. He left me without a goodbye. So now I often sit in denial. Confused about how..or if I'm supposed to move on.
Not once in the time we were together did he hint he would leave, or want to leave. The last words e said to me, were "It's almost time to come home, I can't wait! Things will be perfect soon."
Only he can answer the question on why it's hapened this way.
I'm asking you how I move on. How I leave the pain behind. If I'm supposed to let go of my feelings for him.
2006-11-21 12:53:40 · 13 answers · asked by Echinate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time. Time. Time.
If you are asking, you are ready, I think, to do what you need to do to move on.
Do a lot of things for yourself. Get out and enjoy yourself. Go shopping or go read in a bookstore. Do anything you love doing for yourself.
But most of all, let yourself feel the pain and let it run its course. After the pain, you'll probably be pretty angry. Do things that help you vent and release the anger. Beat up a Barbie doll, I don't know.
But you have to let it run its course. And the best thing to do while that's happening is do whatever else you can to enjoy yourself. If that means hanging out with friends or spending time alone (or both), do it.
2006-11-21 13:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so very sorry..I can totally relate the SAME thing happened to me. My guy moved 7 hours away and just stopped calling me then he told me he was moving to a new apartment and would call me with his new number and never did. It tore me in two. I was devastated for months. And yes, you are supposed to let go because thats what he is doing to you. Later on when i finally talked to that guy again he confessed that he had been cheating on me and he stopped calling me cuz that was the only thing he knew to do, that was his way of getting over me, moving on. Guys are way different than girls...and him just totally pushing you out of his life is how he is dealing with it. Its going to hurt really bad Im sorry but there is no cure. If you just jump into another relationship the feelings will just be transferred onto the new guy and wont be for him, and if you just go crazy and date a bunch of guys or screw around you will feel horrible and dirty and used...The only cure is time. Time heals ALL wounds, no matter how painful. Give it some time. Cry as much as you want, eat all the ice cream you want and go out with your girlfriends as much as possible. Get a job or an after school activity--anything to keep your mind off of him and eventually you will be fine. One day you will get to the point where you wont even be mad at him..because he wont mean enough to you even to waste your anger on. Be strong!!
2006-11-21 13:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by georgiabelle87 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you Hon but someone has been playing a game with you.
Dating online for FOUR years!
That is the dangerous thing about the internet - anyone can pretend to be anything regardless of the help or harm to another.
This went on way too long.
There was life before him and is again!
Pick yourself up, stop mooding over something you never really had control of.
Learn from the experience and date only people you can directly see.
Best wishes in your new life!
God bless!!!
2006-11-21 13:01:34 · answer #3 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Echinate: The pain you are feeling is called grieving. You will feel anger and shame too. You are reaping the consequences of your choices. Your choice to "get a guy on the net" has betrayed you. Seldom do either, long-distant nor inter net romances ever, pan out to anything good. He plainly, didn't like the time with you in person. Next time, you have to choose the right choice to not go inter net fishing. Always see what you are going to buy into before you buy it. You can move on now, a bit more wiser from your experience. Good luck to you.
2006-11-21 13:04:31 · answer #4 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you were dating this guy that you met on line,and it was a four year on line relationship? I'm guessing you never met him in person and if so you never actually when to his home? You do understand that people who meet on line can tell you anything and it wouldn't be the whole truth?Also that he could have very well been a married man the whole time you were dating him on line? This i believe is what happen to you,and just like any other break up you have to put it pass you and move on.
2006-11-21 13:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I really feel for you. It is so hard when one person loves someone and the love is not returned. I am betting he is a nice guy to make things worse. But think you have been alone and you are doing alright. He sounds like he got cold feet. Try not to think about him. Go on online dating and take your focus off of him and on someone new. The new love will take your mind off of him. I know it will be hard but think of it like this, it is better you found out now that he was not ready for comitment than ten years from now. The best of luck to you, and I was once told to stay strong, I'll pass those wise words down to you.
2006-11-21 12:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I wish i were there to give you a hug, but I send all my virtual hugs. You have to find it in yourself to move on. Stay strong. People are like that, and some are so cold hearted that they would do such a thing. Keep telling yourself you don't need him and find someone else to hold on to. I don't recommend taking the "onlne way" again. Just stay strong girl, keep your head up high. :)
2006-11-21 13:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard. but let it go. maybe if it had been a couple days but its been a month. Hes not coming back and if he was this is not the kind a guy you want. You want one thats going to be a man and not hide from whatever hes hiding from. Move on and dont look back. sometimes guys suck.
2006-11-21 13:00:47 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a guy before computer dating same thing just disapered.come to find out he couldn't do anything but build woman up never touched anything but our hearts and broke them in two girl nothing is an accident good riddens better to have loved and lost to never have loved at all get out more .meet real people hold your head up it's his loss not yours find someone to love and appriciate you for who you really are.he probably is just a freak who gets off on mind games
2006-11-21 13:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating again. Not to get serious but just to have fun and remember what a beautiful women you are.
2006-11-21 12:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋