what do u think i have to do to get my dad and me to have a better relationship?

Question

he always points out the negative stuff that i do. he always yells and we kind of ignore each other without relizing it. we never had the good old days.

Answer 1

I don't know the issues at your home but when I was growing up, my dad yelled a lot and was always stressed out. We never really had "the good old days" together. I was more afraid of him than anything else. I thought we would never have a decent relationship or even a decent conversation but when I grew up and got into my mid twenties, things started changing. I'm in my late thirties now and our relationship is terrific. But Dad had to get older too so he could learn from his own mistakes. This is an issue that your father should be dealing with as well. You can't change it alone. It's not your responsibility for the way your father behaves, but it is your responsibility for the way you behave. All you can do is focus on you and how you want to be. Know that you have many more positive things about you than negative. Understand that your dad may have been raised in a similar way (having his negative qualities pointed out to him more than the positive, being yelled at a lot, being ignored in between). You can be a prime example for yourself and just behave the way you think you really should behave, with all due respect towards yourself and your father.

Answer 2

Maybe you could find an activity that you both enjoy doing together. This could help you get along better and bond with each other.

Answer 3

first try to make up and be considerate, even if he messed everything up. offer to help with things, notice if he's stressed. try to take an interest in the things he likes, if you find a common interest then plan things to do around it.

Answer 4

talk talk talk. point out what he is doing and question him if there is positive things you can discuss. not speaking solves nothing. dont let him walk away from it..