2006-11-21 12:33:28 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Basically my Fiancee and I got into an arguement last weekend and that's when I realized something wasn't right because we were fine and I just suddenly freaked out on her. It was so stupid and I hate myself for it. Today we were okay and everything and I guess I just totally snapped again and I can sit here and it's been like 3 hours and I'm like what the hell was I thinking?! But I don't know how to channel that anger or whatever. It's not right and I don't want it to tear us apart because I love her. Can someone tell me how to get help without seeking a doctor or something? I want a natural treatment that would work asap. =\
2006-11-21 12:41:00 · update #1
You are obviously angry at something.
Something about her makes you angry but you don't want to confront her with it.
Or you have a personnal problem that she does not understand and it set you off when she mention it.
People also get a very low tolerance level when confronted time and time again with the same problem and they don't know how to deal with it.
You need to figure out what caused you to lose your temper, and if it has anything to do with her, put your cards on the table and discuss it with her.
Will she listen to you?
Chances are that she will not because she won't understand what you are talking about or she will choose not to understand because it does not suit her.
2006-11-21 14:38:29 · answer #1 · answered by Aussies-Online 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is some underlying issue in those many irrational and stupid things. Something else must be stressing you out or else just being close to the holidays or not knowing where to go next in your relationship.
Step back and take a few deep breaths. Try to think about what you are afraid of or what is bothering you or stressing you out. What is beneath the surface of all these little things that make you flip out?
think about it when you have some quiet time.
2006-11-21 22:35:53 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress & the Holidays. It's an irrational & stupid world we live in, so this sounds normal to me. Just as long as you can keep your hands to yourself & not physically hurt anyone, you should make it until the year 2007 & if you still are feeling poorly by Easter, then go for counseling or call a hotline for advice. You should be OK! Don't drink to excess when you feel this way.
2006-11-21 20:40:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you need to take a break from the relationship. but if you don't try walking and music therapy which is singing laughing and dancing. use poetry to express urself. i'm going thru the same thing. you wanna talk let's talk dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. i'm trying meditation which is promoted at holisticonline.com and there are graet articles on 1stholistic.com which helps you deal with life. good luck.
2006-11-21 21:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Tyler, Have you been under stress lately? This would cause the behavior that your having.Try and relax and don't think of anything that will upset you.
Clowmy
2006-11-21 20:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that too, and I seriously don't know why, but I was prescibed Paxil for depression and it got rid of irrational fears and getting angry at irrational things.
2006-11-21 20:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety Disorder/Depression. Try meds, then anger management.
2006-11-21 20:37:38 · answer #7 · answered by Mustang Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another girl-- one that makes you smile. its obvious this one annoys the heck out of you
Its probably the thought of being stuck with her forever that is spinning you o ut
2006-11-21 22:42:24 · answer #8 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your hurting yourself, letting yourself get mad makes it a problem. take deep breaths and think it over. another thing, dont beat yourself up over this topic, getting mad at it only makes it worse!
2006-11-21 20:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by patience v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like me i cant stand stupid it really gets to me stupid is as stupid does
2006-11-21 20:38:03 · answer #10 · answered by twilla l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋